Am I wrong for taking DD away from Him?

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Registered: 10-27-2007
Am I wrong for taking DD away from Him?
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Mon, 03-08-2010 - 2:04pm

Hello to all suffering from being betrayed...


Our daugther is 3mos old and altho me and hubby seperated 6mos ago, I just found about her abt 2wks ago.

 

 

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Registered: 02-19-2010
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 9:01pm
i feel your pain...my husband of 6 years has ow. i was in happy stupid land when i found out. it's been 3 weeks since dd. he changed his mind about what he wants to do so many times i'm dizzy. i'm tired of competing with ow. it's insulting and disgusting. i guess i have no one to blame but myself. i'm letting it happen. i'm not giving him the ultimatum like you did. i'm not as brave or strong as you. i asked him to make love to me last night but he said no that we aren't right. however, he almost wanted to eat me up alive. i told him no. i can't play this yo yo games with him. i hope everything works our for you and your baby. he's will be the one missing out. he'll realize when he comes down from stupid land. keep loving your baby and it will get better every day.
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Registered: 10-27-2007
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 9:19pm
Thank you for your support...I am trying to

 

 

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Registered: 02-19-2010
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 10:34pm
no i won't be alright. i don't think i will ever be alright. i loved and still love my husband more than anything. i'm still confused where my husband went because this man is not him. i thought i would be able kick him out if i even thought he was cheating but i've learned i was dead wrong. is hating love? because was it does to me....what it did to me....
all i've learned from this experience so far is that my heart can hurt to the point where it feels like i can't breathe. i don't know what holds for me tomorrow but it will never be what it used to be three weeks ago.
you on the other hand is what i thought i would be like. strong and able to scream at your husband and call him names. i envy you.
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Registered: 10-27-2007
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 12:16am

If you tell yourself you won't be alright, then you wont.. believe me I know how you feel to want someone and that person wants someone else. I still love him with all my heart....thought he was going to be the one I would spend the rest of my life with. Grow old with...but I guess he had other plans. I'm still sooo angry at him for leaving me behind like I was nothing...I have to tell myself over and over again that we will be just fine without him. I am still hurting very deeply on the inside. I want him back sooo badly- but as my mother said...You can't make him want you...Oh how I wish we could tho...One day you will come out of the storm ready to look at the sunshine. I'm still in the storm....I look at my daughter everyday and see his face and it hurts that he chose her over us. I hug her wishing he was here. I guess now I just want him to suffer the way that we are....


Try praying...it does work...I have found myself kneeling to God for direction and strength to cope and move on...besides what else can we do?

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 10:40am
I don't know the legalities of it all, but I do think it is wrong to keep the baby from him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2009
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 12:30pm
...yes, I think you are wrong...and...I think the courts will also think you are wrong...

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Registered: 10-27-2007
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 3:21pm

Maybe u guys are right, I have been doing some more thinking and talking to my family about this.