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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 1:01am

Computer problems forever here, this is the only way I can respond to your post.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 6:09pm

He's trying to tie the two things together, it's the attempt to make you "even".

 

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 8:18am

(((Hugs)))

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Registered: 09-24-2007
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 6:57am
he just admitted to reading my diary/journal, a complete breach of my privacy and further proof of not being able to trust him. He said it was the only way he could really know what was going on with me since he feels I violated trust by skipping birth control pills a few times 6 months ago. It didn't work, but he feels that is just as bad as cheating. He is using the baby thing to cloud the fact that HE cheated. I told him that there is a chance I could live with what we have, but I would need to see major effort on his part. He is like a deer in headlights and has no clue what that means. I gave him some examples, but I am sick of telling him what to do to even TRY - is counseling going to help that? Or am I beating a dead horse?
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Registered: 09-09-2008
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 12:01am

No matter what "reasons" he gives you, they are nothing but excuses for cheating.

 

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Registered: 09-24-2007
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 7:02pm
We went to counseling today and he is telling me that the reason he cheated is because he doesn't want another baby (we have a 2 yr old) and I do. He felt he couldn't tell me and felt that we weren't working. He wants to work it out but only if I don't have another baby. I am only 30 and think that's crazy. How can I trust him after all this? Let alone agree to HIS terms. It just seems so wrong.
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