Anger-hurt-Anger , when does the healing

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Registered: 05-19-2009
Anger-hurt-Anger , when does the healing
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Tue, 05-19-2009 - 11:02am

I just found out the my husband of months has been having an affair with not one, not two but three different females. Before this information was presented to me I had my suspicions, but had nothing to go on, however before we were married we made a promise to one another since we both had been through relationships that involved cheating from the other spouse, that we would instead walk away from one another before we put that individual through the pain of infidelity. When my suspicions began to arise, I gave him the opportunity to come clean with me without accusing him of anything. Needless to say he didn't. A couple of weeks ago, someone presented me with information concerning two of the three female, the third female I found out by mistake. A couple of day later the first young lady (T)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 11:13am
My first suggestion is to stop contact with all the OW.
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 12:10pm
Wow, nothing is worse than the "trickle truth" as you're repeatedly hurt by facts as they come out one by one.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 12:20pm

Wow, I wouldn't believe a word this man tells you!

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Registered: 05-19-2009
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 1:25pm

Thank you for your response & I agree with you 100% on the fact that he needs me as a homebase. This I know for a fact (how) because he does not have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of...

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Registered: 05-19-2009
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 1:27pm
Thank for the information re: "180", these are steps I am sure to follow.
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Registered: 05-19-2009
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 1:28pm

Thank you for your reply, I agree with you, he does have issues that "HE" needs to deal with. Right now the most important things is healing myself.

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Registered: 05-24-2009
Sun, 05-24-2009 - 10:28pm

I am the product of perhaps a marriage starting out similar to yours, but not knowing about all of the pieces until now, 20 years later. Yes, we have been married for 20 years.


You do not have children. Please if you take any advise please listen to these words. You can seemingly have the "perfect" everything. Your life, your home, the idea of what