are all men like this???

I've heard that figure too. But I guess that only matters if your H is one of those 60%.

Myra - funny you should use the word 'tank' that is the code word H had OW in his phone under. Must be a man thing. Had I been checking it back then, I may have suspected or wondered, I know for sure now I would. I still check phone records of every call, but because my H uses his phone for business too, I can't know all of the numbers, but I do check time, how much time spent talking, repeat calls, you name it. I do. and I probably always will check from time to time. I will not be caught being the last to know again if there should be an again. H even told step daughter he was having an A, can you imagine, and she saw me and couldn't say anything. She tried telling me over and over that I was too good for her father, and would be better off finding someone else that was deserving of me - what a horrible place to put that kid in, she was 25 years old at the time... Just horrible! Sometimes even used her as an excuse that he had
to run over to her house to help with something and I couldn't go.... horrible! They do say that men that hang out with men who condone cheating are more likely to cheat themselves. Funny thing is, my Hs co-worker, the only one he really worked with for years, was always having affairs w/ our secretaries, and gave H the cheap hotel to bring hor to down the block that sold time by the 3 hour blocks..... YUK!! So it does make sense. Hor found him off the internet, just like hor found the others, and co worker covered for him and told him where to go so they didn't have to keep doing it in vans, cars, dirty work shops etc. Went to hotel 3x in 10 months - I made him take me to the parking lot to check it out - boy was he squirming. It was a real lowlife dirty place, just like all the other places they did it. EW!