are all men like this???

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Registered: 06-01-2009
are all men like this???
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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 9:49am

Checking my H phone...A which I still do and probably will for sometime...I see an email on his phone...The email was sent fronm "henry" a married guy my H works with...I actually met "henry" last week..Henry sent an email to my husband that said "I would love to bang Susie".... I thought it was terrible that he would send an email to my H talking about wanting to bang someone other than his wife...Imagine if his wife saw this???????? What is wrong with men!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-09-2010
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 7:25pm
Irishlad - since you are being so brave, let me ask you? What can possess a man that loves his W to think it is acceptable or ok to go have an A? What happens that they talk themselves into thinking this is permissible?
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Registered: 02-03-2009
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 9:01pm
...what about Irishlad's post leads you to believe that he thinks it is right to cheat?...or, that he would know why a man would cheat?...I think he's saying that most would not cheat even if they engage in the juvenile men-speak...
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Registered: 01-09-2010
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 10:05pm
Z - it was just a question for him! No where did I say that I thought HE thought it was right to cheat! I simply asked a mans point of view...
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Registered: 06-01-2009
Thu, 05-13-2010 - 1:46am

Below is a link to one man's candid explanation of why he cheats, from this month's Esquire, by "anonymous"


http://www.esquire.com/features/reasons-why-men-cheat-0410


Some interesting food for thought there.


I have to say here that I never, in a million years, thought my husband would be capable of cheating and living a lie. I thought he had too much integrity to deceive and betray. Ha. The joke was on me.




Edited 5/13/2010 1:51 am ET by overcaffeinated
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 05-13-2010 - 3:06am
What an arrogant idiot this guy is. Hopefully his wife will figure it out eventually. And hopefully NOT after the poor woman has gotten some nasty STD as a result of her wonderful H behavior. This is the same type of guy that will be begging his wife not to leave his arse when he gets caught. Makes me sick.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Thu, 05-13-2010 - 5:20pm

Sorry I didn't answer sooner but can't post from work. I never said it was alright to cheat ( although I did for 1.5 yrs)W found out, told her entire family, my entire family, and XAP family. Everyone knew. A ended abruptly. For me getting into A was a long drawn out process. A little word here, touch of a hand there, a little more liberties from time to time. Biggest mistake of my life. Really embarrassed to talk about it. But it doesn't change the fact that most men do talk that way you described. Most of the time nothing is meant by it, very rarely is it acted upon. IN no way am I condoning As. Thanks for listening.


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