Baby now in Picture - what to do?

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Registered: 11-24-2008
Baby now in Picture - what to do?
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Sat, 02-14-2009 - 10:03pm

I posted my story on a few different threads, and the responses have helped me so much.

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Registered: 12-10-2008
Sun, 02-15-2009 - 11:41am

What do YOU think you should do? No one is going to be able to answer that for you because everyones different. For ME? I have a VERY low BS tolerance level, along with an even lower one for un-needed drama and drama queens. I'm also not some dewey-eyed romantic that thinks love conquers all. It would be the day when I'd trot over to queenie, at her command, to see what she wanted to say "to my face" on any given day. She obviously likes high drama and if you stay with him, you'll obviously have to deal with it on a regular basis. That and it also sounds in a couple places in your post that your H is a little wishy washy at times. It's not that I'd never rebuild with a cheater, because I have, but in your place, I'd get the hell out and start over. Sometimes love isn't enough.




Edited 2/15/2009 11:57 am ET by doubletrouble21
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Sun, 02-15-2009 - 11:57am
My advice remains the same - see an attorney.
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Registered: 02-21-2008
Sun, 02-15-2009 - 12:07pm

You told him that if he went alone that you'd throw him out. Then he comes back to YOU after SHE tells him that SHE doesn't want to be with him. I'd be so freakin insulted - that NOW he DOES want me.


If you stay with this guy - and that chick really IS pregnant and has the baby - and your DH is so flip floppy NOW - your whole life will be like this. Is that what you want?? That is really what this is about. What do you want YOUR future to be like?


Good luck,


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Registered: 02-21-2008
Sun, 02-15-2009 - 12:12pm

Oh, and for the OW to be texting you and calling you "some kind of Christian woman for trying to tell YOUR HUSBAND - that YOU TOOK VOWS with to pick YOU" over a woman who is pregnant

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Sun, 02-15-2009 - 7:27pm

After all I have been through and overall ... I can still say that my marriage was 80% good.

 

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Registered: 02-02-2009
Mon, 02-16-2009 - 1:43pm

Ok.

 


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Registered: 11-24-2008
Mon, 02-16-2009 - 5:29pm
It's amazing how you thing your own situation is horrible (which it is) and that no one will relate or understand what it is like. It sounds like you, however, know exactly what I am talking about, and have gone through the almost exact same thing that I am! It feels nice to know I can have someone impartial and unbiased to talk to this about. How do I get in touch with you? I could use all the help I can get! And thank you!!
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Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 02-16-2009 - 7:11pm

Whatever you do, whatever you decide, it will all be very stressful. She is immature and your husband is foolish. Look after your own interests girl and be firm. God bless you.

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Registered: 01-02-2005
Mon, 02-16-2009 - 7:27pm

Hi Alison,


Just noticed that you mentioned unbiased/impartial.......Someone who has been where you are is not impartial and unbiased.

 

Greatly Missed, Never Ever Forgotten

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Tue, 02-17-2009 - 9:11am

You can email me at jvck105@rcn.com

 


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