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Registered: 12-18-2009
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Sat, 10-16-2010 - 7:55pm

After trying to put this back together, there are more suspicions.... he was getting secretive again, minimizing windows, clearing history, and being online practically all day while I am at work.

I finally broke down and installed a keylogger. I feel guilty about doing this, but I need irrefutable proof as to what he is up to.

I pray I am wrong, but at the same time, I feel as though a weight has been lifted knowing that the truth will soon be coming out.

I have prepared myself for what might follow, I think.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 10-16-2010 - 11:09pm

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 10:48am

It is suspicious, plus I discovered that he at least visited the registration page of yet another personals site. From my earlier posts/story, I had inadvertently discovered two personal ads he had posted. I suspect he has another, unknown to me, email address (or addresses) as well. I should find out soon. I know I could not use any of this in court, I just need it for my own verification. If it is just porn sites, the length of time he spends on the computer has me worried as well about addiction to this stuff.

The next few days will be telling. After everything that happened before, he had shared all passwords, but now there may be more. I will find out and then decide what is next.

Although he has not physically cheated, I feel he is well on his way and if that is the case, then I will release him to do as he pleases. I don't need this garbage, not at my age.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 11:17am

Well all I know for sure is that when you walk in the room and a man suddenly minimizes or closing out the computer screen that he is looking at something he doesn't want you to see. Add that to the fact that he always clears the history and I think something is up for sure. I caught my H doing both these things when he was pursuing an affair with another woman.

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 3:43pm

Thank you. I really won't know much until the week gets underway. He behaves on the weekend when I am home. He is retired and I can tell when he has been on the computer all day as nothing has been done at home, absolutely nothing. Funny how things manage to get done on the weekends.

I do have the keylogger set to copy emails to me at work so I should be able to see what he is up to

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 9:06pm

If he is alone at home all day he is probably looking for something to amuse himself.

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 9:22pm

I agree. After day one of checking, he spent the better part of the day looking at images of women. Fortunately there were no visits to personals sites, but there was a communication with an old girlfriend, initiated by my husband.

I am sure each day will bring more.

He is bored. There is stuff to do around here, but when I get home, I always get the, "I was so busy today, I didn't have a chance to do anything else".

This story will definitely be continued.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 12:41am

I bet he's busy all right, busy deleting the computer history"

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2009
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 9:14pm

It is amazing

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 10:09pm

That thing sounds pretty cool. Tell him that you heard that porn sites are the ones most likely to put out viruses. Well I guess he's just waiting to see if ex GF responds now. So can you see everything he types to her?

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 8:55pm

I did tell him that and all he said was he is "very careful" about the sites he visits. Yeah, right.

I do see everything he types, every website he visits,

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