I don't really think the BS on this board should be subjected to your inquiries (JMHO). The pain that they feel is much deeper than someone such as yourself who knowingly chose to involve yourself with a MM. The BS didn't sign up for this kind of pain and you can't even imagine how bad they are hurting. It far exceeds the pain of an AP who knew all along they what they were signing up for.
You're very brave writing to us.
Alice I am much farther from the pain than a lot of these other women.
I have checked out the other boards and I have to say after reading a few posts
So many really long member names lately.
We shut the W out of minds over there, it is the only way we can betray them along side their Hs. But I think about her constantly and I worry about her. I worry he will cheat again, and I am letting it happen to her.
Alice you do have courage to post here but I think a lot of betrayed spouses do not understand the sudden concern about the wife and his "cheating" when all at once the OW has herself been dumped. It comes off as "self interest" concern. He is moving on with his life and there has been no reprecussions for him ...type of concern.
YOU were never this woman's friend. You plotted behind her back with the help of her husband to do her harm. She and her family was harmed. She will never see you as a friend. You are no friend to their marriage. The "I worry he will cheat again, and I am letting it happen to her" comes off very wrong here. You were not concerned about her or his cheating when it counted most. To say it now... it rings false. It ended/ fell apart and you want him to suffer for it.
Personally I am highly offended that you the person that co-plotted against their marriage