BF Looking at gay personals on Craiglist...

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Registered: 12-09-2011
BF Looking at gay personals on Craiglist...
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 3:04pm

First the back story:

My boyfriend and I

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Fri, 12-09-2011 - 8:53pm

I think you went overboard in his defense.

If you are ready to share him with other males, your decision, then that is one thing.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 12-09-2011
Sat, 12-10-2011 - 5:35pm

I may have been a bit overrboard in defense for him but that's only because I know that everyones reaction is going to be "ditch him" without knowing our situation.

I simply can't leave someone when I care so deeply for them. He may have "gay tendencies" but he still is aroused by me and we have a healthy sex life. I cannot just think "oh hes gay" and that's it, it is impossible for it to be that black and white. Sexaulity is a lot more complex than that.

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Registered: 12-12-2011
Mon, 12-12-2011 - 6:42am

I was in a similar situation and let me share with you what I learned in retrospect.

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Registered: 12-09-2011
Mon, 12-12-2011 - 11:15am

Thanks a lot for the reply. It was very insightful and I appreciate you seeing it from both sides. It is very hard to just leave someone that you are in love with. At the same time I feel like a dectective and my distruct is only growing. I haven't found new evidence of infidelity but whenever he goes to referee or play sports I can't help but feel like there is something going on. I don't know what to do but I appreciate your reply.

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 4:22pm