Everything seems to happen for a reason. Or so
Don't know how far into the falling out period you are, so can't really judge what sort of recovery program you've adapted for yourself.
I agree. Ever since DH and I agreed to make a conscious effort to work on our marriage and fix the broken aspects of it that caused us to hurt each other, we've been more honest, open, loving and fun than ever before.
Are there still moments when I want to scream? Definitely.Do we still have knock-down-drag-outs because I'm still having a hard time letting go of "why?" absolutely
But we're TALKING, and that's something we always had a hard time with before, and now the floodgates are opened.
I have to hope that it'll continue to get better.
Yes, I think some good can come from an A.
"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop." Herb Stein
I suppose there is always good in everything. But in this case, it is a crappy way to find out what is lacking in relationship. Why didn't he just TELL me??? Our conversations have been better to be honest, even now while he is fence-sitting with 2 women. Less arguing. However, it is difficult for me to still trust him, as he is keeping things from me still (of course, he is still seeing OW).
itisnevereasy: i agree with all you said. Only one question. My husband chose me when we got married. That should have been enough. Now I should be flattered because he will (possibly) choose me again over the AP? So unfair. As of right now I feel like second-class. Thrown away so he could "try on" another for size and see if she fit. He is still trying her on...don't know. It is hard to see how this will make for a better relationship, whether I move on or R. If we R, I will always have trust issues. If I move on with
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Going on 11 years since I joined DH on his recovery journey (he'd been working on recovery already before that); 8+ years since DH last used porn or MB; 7+ years of DH being free of sexual addiction acting-out behaviors and trustworthy.
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Going on 11 years since I joined DH on his recovery journey (he'd been working on recovery already before that); 8+ years since DH l
I'm not sure I see it that "good" can come from an affair, since it's based on lies and deception - what good can come from lies and deception?