Can the internet be considered cheating?

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Registered: 04-08-2010
Can the internet be considered cheating?
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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 4:54pm
Hi, I am new here and was hoping that maybe someone could help me.
My SO of 4 years cheated on me last Aug. I forgave him, it took time for me to not think about it everyday but I got past it. We worked on us and rebuilding us. We moved out of state to start over and to start a new life for us.
Well last weekend, we went to the Easter egg hunt and while I am hunting with the kids I see this women approach our car. I went over there, asked the kids to get in the car, took her aside and asked her nicely what was going on. We are less than a month in this state and neither of us know anyone. So why is she now yelling at my S/O about getting caught.
Well come to find out that they were not intimate but he did go to see her and he has been talking to her on the Internet. The Internet has been a problem for us because he has met so many females on there and talks to them.
Why am I feeling that I can do nothing right. And him online talking to these other females is that a type of cheating?
Sorry that was long winded.
Thanks
K
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 9:48am

welcome to the board.

Yes the internet can be a sign of cheating. There are tons of sights just for that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 12:31pm

Yes, it's an A if it's online.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2010
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 2:40pm
Thanks for the feedback,
I know that there are so many of these sights just for this.
Ever since the last time though I feel like I am going crazy and jumping to conclusions about everything.
Again thanks so much
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 2:51pm
OK, but don't allow yourself to believe that an online A is in any way different from any other emotional affair.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2010
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 6:08pm
Simple answer to your question - YES!
If some emotions and time are taken from your relationship and shared with another, instead of you and you are not included, then by all means, it's crossing the line!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2010
Sat, 04-10-2010 - 8:00pm

Oh yes...the definition of infidelity is:

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 04-11-2010 - 12:57am
Dr.Phil had a show on infidelity and he said "If you are doing or saying anything with a member of the opposite sex that you would not be doing if your spouse was standing right there...it's cheating"
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Registered: 01-11-2010
Sun, 04-11-2010 - 7:04pm

YES YES YES using the internet is a form of cheating!!


Even if a person starts off "innocently" just emailing someone else, that in itself is an emotional affair.