cell phone cheaters

He says now."I won't bring my cell phone cause you will probably put people's numbers in my phone again.""My cell phone is broken honey" Thank you for answering my message. I appreciate your words. I had some words with my husband since the last message. About 5 days ago I was in the Dollar store with my husband. He insists that he go everywhere with me since he says that I talk to men all the time and he hates when I talk to the acquaintances that I know female and male that we know that work in the grocery stores that we frequent. I think he is nervous or jealous . I was in the Dollar Store with my husband getting some pain med for our daughter. He received a phone call or text I couldn't tell since he changed his ringer for each type of call. I asked harmlessly who that was? He had looked at his phone quickly and nervously and then quickly put his phone in his pocket. He said "Oh! Uh just the phone company!" I said "No. I don't think you get that nervous when it is the phone company.!" I stormed out of the store with him following. He got into our van and the argument ensued. I said that I don't know why he had to betray his wife and our kids at this very sad time of his life since we are already sad to be probably loosing him to fatty liver failure. He said that he isn't talking to other women on the phone and has no other women in his life but me. I said if that was true then he would let me see who had called or text him.! He said that I should just trust him if I loved him. I said let me see. He said then that he didn't have to. He got out of the van and walked to his mom's. I followed and stopped him and pleaded please don't do this to our kids don't betray them that they are already loosing him to death probably. That our kids and I don't need to have the last memory of their daddy be of him being unfaithful. The kids don't need their dieing papa to betray them too. He said that he wasn't and to get away. Then he came to see us again the next day after another fight later that day. He wanted to be sexual with me and I allowed us to be intimate. Then we had some closeness and "normal" days. On Monday he had an appointment at the university hospital so on Sunday we had lots of snuggles and loves because it is really scary when he goes to the doctor. On monday I had to take our 8 yr old to the doctor since her tummy ulcer was bothering her again. I text my husband starting at 10am and he was very nice and open to me so we kept texting back and forth during the day. He called me at 4:30pm. He just wanted to talk to me to let me and our kids know that he didn't know any info yet that he was waiting for test results. I had no indication that it would be the last time I would get to talk to my husband . May 17,2010 at 4:30 pm has been the last time I talked and our 8 yr old and 2 yr old daughters and 4 yr old son have talked to our dear and precious papa and hubby.We don't know if he got bad news at the dr or if he is too sick after the trip or if he just changed his mind about loving us all. I kept trying to get him to answer my texts and phone calls but no answer. On Tues. May 18th I took our 4yr old son and 2 yr old daughter to his mom's house at 2pm to see if we could get him to answer the door. But no he wouldn't answer the door. We then tried to call him on the phone and I had our 4 yr old and 2 yr old leave a message for papa. They were so excited in anticipation to see daddy or talk to daddy. Now our 4 yr old wishes on a star every night to see his papa. He tells me that he is sad about daddy not wanting to see him anymore. I said we don't know what is going on so we have to just think that daddy is just too sick to come see us. Our 2 yr old keeps asking where's papa? I have to say the truth I don't know. I know that his mom is happy that my hubby isn't seeing his family because his sister said that my husband had to lie to his mom about him talking to me on the phone. I was told on different occasions by his brother and sister that their mom always has had a "different " relationship with my husband.My husband has always been told by his mom that he never did anything wrong and never affected persons around him.My hubby has told me in tears that he has to do as his mom says or he won't be helped by her . He does need to be able to go to the university whenever at a drop of the hat and her $ allows him to do that.He literally will jump and leave when she calls if he is over seeing his kids and wife. He apologizes to her for not being at her house when she has came home from work! She has ordered me and our kids out of my husband's hospital room saying that we should be at home letting him sleep. He had just got to the hospital. Then when he had to go for tests his mom said that my place is at home with her son's and my kids not by my husband's side so I could support him as I should and share the emotions that come when there are hard and sad diagnoses. She even hates to see her son my hubby and I kiss and hug she makes disgusted and impatient sounds. She acts jealous . ?A friend did some research since she met my hubby. She was a victim of incest and he reminded of her before she got help. I am surprised by her thoughts. She said there is emotional incest and that my hubby has all the signs. I am talking about it or trying so that others may be able to recognize and get help for the controlling behavior of their parents. So maybe they won't throw away their beautiful families because they feel they have to. Everyone who has a spouse and children are lucky and privileged because so many people never get the opportunity to have what we have had and lost.
I am pretty sure she won't let us be around my husband during his last days and won't tell us if he dies. We for sure won't be allowed at his funeral. WE ARE NOTHING and there is no acknowledgement that we are my hubby and our kids' Papa 's family.!

Thank you for answering me. Sorry I took so long to answer. The 5 kids have had me running. Plus my husband has been over and keeping me busy. On monday he had to go for a check up at the university 4 hours away. He talked to us all day on Monday the 17th. I took our oldest daughter to the Dr. He was being really nice like he means that he loves us and wants us in his life as he says almost everyday. The last I talked to him was at 4:30 pm and he had slipped away to the bathroom to give us a call. He said he was waiting for the doctors to review his test results and let him know what they were going to do with him as in treatment plans. I still haven't heard anything from him since then.The kids and I his wife don't know if he made it back to our home town. We are worried that he had to stay at the hospital for more tests or bad news for his prognosis. We are worried that he fell even more ill from his fatty liver disease and am rapidly dieing in the hospital. He could have decided that I am expecting too much from him again or accused him unjustly as he says. We may not know. His mom hates me and our kids so we can't believe that she would let us know. His mom probably won't even let us go to the funeral for my husband and our kids' papa. There is always the possibility that my hubby is just shutting us out because the person he has been conversing with on the internet and phone has decided to commit to him and make their relationship more. My hubby says I am just crazy to suspect any affair. The kids and I are just in agony for fear of what is happening to our papa/hubby.! There is no way that I can find out at the university hospital now cause a while back my hubby didn't include me as his next of kin and emergency contact. He says he can't count on me. Even though he took $33 from me cause he says that he needed it and he says that he helps me but he didn't this month since supposedly our bank misplaced $200.I tried to tell him that I can't even pay all my household bills and be able to feed our kids so I couldn't give him anything. He took it anyway. And now he won't call to let me know how he is and where he is cause I am not that important. I just don't know how much pain we need to go through for him to notice that we are a privilege to have. I know how precious it is to have had one true love and the fact that we had the privilege of having 5 beautiful kids. Well I just don't know how to keep from texting my hubby to find out what is going on.I know how pathetic I sound and look.

Thanks for the reply. It means so much! My hubby and I do not have a phone account together anymore. He demanded that the phone lines that the kids and I have be taken over by me so that it is in my name not his. He also insisted that the satellite be out of his name. He was very nasty about these issues be done right away. Guess he was concerned about being caught again. I have continued to check his phone but was letting it slide for a couple of months. Silly me I should have been more vigilant. The confusing thing is he is overweight that is why he has fatty liver disease killing his liver. He knows that he only has 2 years before a transplant is crucial to his survival. He is in very bad pain because he fell at work and finished ruining his back. His spine is compressed into an hourglass shape so paralyzation is looming as well. He is not focusing on his health and family as I would because having a family and a wife of 16 years is a privilege a precious privilege to be protected and appreciated! I told him once that there are so many persons who can't have kids and persons who never find someone to even try to have kids with So he should be thanking his lucky stars that he has us to complain about! He always tells us that our crying over the fact that his death is a possibility soon is just too burdening and upsetting to him. He says that we should back off. He says I don't know how to love him. I was looking up info about his disease and possible treatments and tests. I am just trying to see if there is anything that is being missed so he can get help to not die. He tells me I am saying the Dr is stupid and that I am arrogant in acting like I could do the Dr's job. I am just panicked wishing to not loose him to his disease. I feel marriage should be for longer than the first bump in the road. People give up to easy. They make it easy for their spouse to not feel the full weight of their dishonorable actions their adulterous behavior. I believe that people should remember everyone has a choice to be either good and honorable or callus and dishonorable. When people make choices by just using their emotions then there are usually serious consequences . People think that marriage or any relationship is gonna be all smooth sailing but that is unrealistic. It is hard to not let all the small hurts that happen build to a big mountain. A person has to know and believe that no one is perfect and that forgiving is important for a happy life. If you don't forgive others then you probably won't forgive yourself either then as a person makes mistakes it becomes harder to feel good about oneself so a person then thinks that their spouse is thinking as bad of us as we think of ourselves. Sometimes their spouse is being harsh like mine. He expects perfection out of me and not of himself. He says all women are backstabbing ho... So I guess that means his mom too...? Well I don't know how I will be able to disconnect enough to survive through this all but I need to find some kind of help cause the panicked dreams of his unfaithfulness is exhausting. His health is worse and color but I can't call dr for him cause he wanted his mom in control since she doesn't ask too many questions of the dr. But his mom isn't calling the dr when he look like he is loosing ground either. He is slipping away before my eyes and ruining the kids and my precious thoughts of him with his shady activities. Normal family time to love on each other is so important so the little ones won't feel the fear that is so strong. I wish I could get him to just relax into our love he might be surprised, his might have just been wrong when she told me that me and the kids were making his disease worse since we are so stressful.My mother in law doesn't even let our daughter into the house that my hubby stays with his mom in, when she went to get $ for a YMCA visit. Our daughter had a friend with too. My hubby's mom is very cold and not nurturing in any way. Her marriage failed and she just went after married men after that. My hubby ended up being her bouncer. I think this is how my hubby got his distaste for women. She seems to just tear our marriage down as if she is jealous of us being together for 16 years. My hubby is always worse when he spends time with his mom. Yeah that is often since he lives there now. I never confronted her and demanded her to respect the family her son created with me. I tried to not be aggressive to her out of respect to my hubby but I regret it now.She actually told me it isn't natural for men or women to stay monogamous! Sick. Pathetic to believe that people can't have any kind of self control over themselves!! Self control is a big problem in society.