Cheating in the Marriage Bed

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Cheating in the Marriage Bed
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Thu, 01-13-2011 - 2:03pm

Cheating in the Marriage Bed

Infidelity in marital bed: The ultimate betrayal?

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 9:38am
pater_familia wrote:

Physical things have meanings and are triggers for pain. After some time had gone by, I purchased a box of packs of that gum, I wrote her a letter about how I appreciated the efforts she was making and the progress the two of us made over the past period of time, and I told her I, Me, was giving her this gum as an outward sign of my efforts to forgive her. That's been some two years ago. She gave me a gift in that I never see that gum in my house anymore.

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 8:18am

That was an interesting piece. I thought that the shrink had a fairly good handle on the issue. When she said about me, "let us never speak of it again ..." That wasn't my experience but she was right on about people getting rid of the bed or other things associated with the affair. I asked my wife to get rid of anything the men gave her and that was sort of an important gesture. Anything that was potentially associated with the affair was painful. I went so far as to throw away ALL her underwear, and she voluntarily

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.