Cheating

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Registered: 09-17-2010
Cheating
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Fri, 09-17-2010 - 2:10am

My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years has been cheating on me with his ex the entire time we have been together. I caught him once & he said it wouldnt happen again & that he wouldnt talk with her anymore. Well come to find out it did happen again & was going on for the last year. There is alot of negaitive history between them & she is always threating to kill herself because of him

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Registered: 02-23-2007
In reply to: cd_ourlove
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 2:23am

I have another question too...why is your bf hanging around, drinking with his ex?

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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: cd_ourlove
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 1:40am
Can I ask you what are you getting from this relationship?

 

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Registered: 09-17-2010
In reply to: cd_ourlove
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:46pm

Drinking seems to be the running theme all the times they were together, she knew that was his weak point

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Registered: 08-09-2010
In reply to: cd_ourlove
Fri, 09-17-2010 - 3:45pm

It is really up to you to decide what to do.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: cd_ourlove
Fri, 09-17-2010 - 1:05pm

Thank goodness you haven't married this person. The fact that he is carrying on this way now speaks volumes about his character. If you do marry this person what will happen when 'life' happens? What will he do when you encounter real problems? or have children to raise? or financial issues? or health issues?

Pamme64 is right this x will always be there. My exh had an A with his ex gf who was "just a friend" in his words. The past is the past and should be just that a long distant memory in the PAST.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: cd_ourlove
Fri, 09-17-2010 - 10:38am

So, he was protecting from finding that he had slept with his X by continuing to sleep with her. Hmmm. Do you want to be with a guy who is capable of thinking like this? Really? What would you tell your sister or your best friend? Take that advise.

Over the years I have lost count of people who came on initially because their fiance or boyfriend cheated on them. They worked through it, got married, had kids only to be cheated on again. I have seen it happen over and over again and they all bemoan not leaving the first time because now they have children who will be from a broken home. Trust me, this guy is not worth the pain and the time to work through this. Not to mention that fact that this crazy x is not ever going to go away. She will reappear in your life over and over and you will always worry about him cheating with her again. She knows his buttons and he give her access to those buttons. It is a bad situation. Don't be a part of it anymore.

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Registered: 08-09-2010
In reply to: cd_ourlove
Fri, 09-17-2010 - 9:59am

Hi, There.



My BF also got back together with his ex 10 months into our relationship, they snuck around for 4 months.