confused and hurt

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Registered: 04-23-2014
confused and hurt
Wed, 04-23-2014 - 1:51am

Hi everyone. I am new to this group but I eally need to vent. I found out 1 week ago that my husband had an affair with someone he works with. His work hours very because he is a supervisor at a warehouse so he gets off when everything is complete. Well, a week ago something told me to lookup our cell phone records. That's when I found out that hter e's been talking to her and texting to her alot. There were also days that they text and called when they were supposed to be at work (cell phones aren't allowed in the building). After I confronted him he first lied and said they were just friends and that was all. I actually believed him because of the type guy he is but I decided to push the issue. Well, once I told him he better tell me everything he admitted he had sex with her 2 times and this had gone on for 6 weeks. I am devestated. My health has been really bad the last two years so I almost understand when he said he just needed to vent to someone and not be judged. Of course I said he should have talked to me. I do love him and I know he regrets what he did. I want to try to work it out but I can't even begin to talk to him without everything in me turning to anger. I'm pissed at him but I'm more pissed at myself because I feel so insecure. I don't know how to try and move past this. By the way, we have been together 12 years married 6 but have known each other since high school (class of 91)