Crushed Husband

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Registered: 07-11-2010
Crushed Husband
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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 12:27pm
I had been married for less than a year when I found out about my wifes affair last week.

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Registered: 07-11-2010
In reply to: boomer30
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 8:08am
My heart truly goes out to you. I'm still here doing the same. Trying to do the best I can and you're right, the down time is terrible. The thoughts of the affair haunt my days and my nights. Even when I think I'm wrapped up in a show or having fun, something sneaks in to remind me and I fall apart. I've decided to get myself some individual counseling as well as the MC. Maybe they can offer me some strategies to cope. My husband feels like dealing with my breakdowns daily is getting to be too much. This is difficult to here because I think to myself, God, you hurt me in the worst way possible and dealing with MY feelings is too much??? I'm desperate for some normalcy and I can't seem to find it. I have days where I feel strong and think I'm letting it go and then it all comes flooding back. Sometimes I wonder if there is someone else out there who would love me more, understand better and not ever do this to me?? Then I think, I don't want someone else...I want him, but I want him to want me in the same way!!! Hang in there, but don't lose yourself in this. It's part of your life but not all of it. ((((Hugs)))

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