D DAY TODAY!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2010
D DAY TODAY!
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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 2:17pm

D DAY TODAY!!! 15 months ago I got the dreaded phone call from her husband.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2005
In reply to: beingquiet
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 5:01pm

As you know I am much more recent, just read your post and thought I'd share something I've been thinking.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2010
In reply to: beingquiet
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 8:28pm

NOTHING YOU'RE FEELING IS RIDICULES!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2009
In reply to: beingquiet
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 9:00pm

i have some thought i would like to share but would respectfully like to ask"

is your husband truly sorry?
do you believe him?
has he shown that he is able to understand what this has done to you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2010
In reply to: beingquiet
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 10:32am

when you have the OCD feelings, you have to pull yourself out of it.



Distract, do something for yourself. You have to retrain your brain.



Counseling helps. She is helping me with cognitive therapy. I vent, she stays calm and starts to talk about something nice in my life.



At first i was mad, but it seems to be working...



Talk about it!!! and talk and talk and talk... get counseling....



when the anger subsides, take a break from here. then pretty soon you'll be coming back to help others...



talk to him, tell him that you need him to say he is sorry again. it helps to hear it more.



iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2005
In reply to: beingquiet
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 1:29pm

Thank for your words.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2007
In reply to: beingquiet
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 4:14pm

I have been sitting back reading your posts-



You seem to have a great head on your shoulders for what needs to be done.



But why would you leave? Why not ask her to?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2007
In reply to: beingquiet
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 4:22pm

You still have alot of anger and maybe thats why you havent moved past it.



Some of us just stay numb for awhile and then we realize that the romantic love is gone from the marriage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2005
In reply to: beingquiet
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 5:40pm

Hi Sandy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2010
In reply to: beingquiet
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 6:14pm

Yes I believe he is truly sorry and I

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2010
In reply to: beingquiet
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 6:25pm

I stayed away from here for quite awhile because hashing it made me even more sad and

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