dealing with feelings

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2009
dealing with feelings
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Sun, 08-02-2009 - 10:48pm
My husband passed away suddenly a month ago. I found out this week he was still having contact with someone he had an affair with 9 years ago. It was a horrible time then. I had to take a restraining order against her for the safety of myself and my children. We worked through it which wasnt easy by any means. Now I find this out. I don't know if they had resumed the affair or were just talking. Whether they had resumed the affair or were just talking it is a horrible betrayal to me. I was still grieving over my husband's death and know I don't know how I feel or how I should feel.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 7:52am
Personally I don't think you should do anything to cause yourself additional pain. So think carefully what you do and don't want to know or can handle and if the woman contacts you proceed with your own mental health in mind.
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