My boyfriend and I are in our early
I have to agree with peaceyma. The fact that he didn't lie about it, readily admitted it to you and validated your suspicions with the truth says a lot.
He has obviously broken a sacred trust and violated a sacred boundary so he is going to have to work hard to rebuild that.
I believe YOU need to now tell him what you need from him in order to start rebuilding the broken trust. Can it be done? I believe so, but with a lot of hard work. You need to be able to communicate clearly what you need from him and he needs to be an open book, in a fish bowl if that is what is required.
Good Luck! A lot of men never admit it. I consider his admission a positive step in the right direction.
Thanks for your reply - it makes me feel a little better.
IMO his willingness to come clean, take responsibility, and offer to do whatever it takes to get right are big.
"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop." Herb Stein
I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders now.
danni,I am glad that you feel you are able to move on. It's tough...
Having said that - words someone told me shortly after my D-day -"Trust, but verify". Although it's sometimes impossible to actually verify, trust yourself, and trust your gut. Be brutally honest with yourself about how you feel if you get that tug in your gut.
If you have given him your bottom line - told him in plain English that you will not tolerate another indiscretion, be prepared to stick to it. After what I have been through and am going through I have vowed to tell every woman that will listen - Have a back-up plan and stick to it.
It's going to take a lot of time to erase those flashbacks and horrible feelings. He needs to do whatever you need him to do right now, including listen when you need to talk about it.
I wish you nothing but the best!