DH went missing yesterday....

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Registered: 12-31-1969
DH went missing yesterday....
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 6:43am

after 1 pm - no return calls or texting - and never came home after work. After 7pm I became concerned. I told his Mom who was watching my girls. We called all of the local hospitals, police dept, etc., but nothing turned up. I brought the girls home to put them to bed and his Mom decided to search for him at the local jail house - he's never been arrested so we never even thought of looking there. Lo and behold, there was his name and mug shot. No charges had been listed at the time. I slept for a couple of hours and searched for charge again, and what I found was shocking: offer agreement to secure for lewd act. I needed to tell somone. His Mom is at the jail now as she posted bond and is waiting for him to be released. So I wonder what he'll have to say for himself when he comes home. Thanks for letting me vent. I'm Jlie, btw.

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 9:53am

Soliciting a prostitute is a serious thing. I'm so sorry. I would get checked for STDs shortly and hire a lawyer for yourself. Today is that rainy day, time to spend some money taking care of yourself.


We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 4:05pm

Without giving him a complete excuse for his behavior, is he getting oral at home?

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 4:16pm

I have been solicited for oral sex on three different occassions and I can't tell you whether or not those women were prostitutes or undercover cops because I simple said no thanks and moved on.

Your H has no excuse so besides what he may offer to make things right in the long run, have you thought about what you might require of him to accomplish this?

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 4:44pm

I ended my last LTR of 2.5 years because I could not leave her 'minor' infidelities in the past and believe me, they were nothing compared to what you have experienced.

I tried, I really did but in the end I had to ask myself what is love without complete trust and abandon? No matter how hard I tried, I just couldn't recover that.

Best wishes. 

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Registered: 08-18-2004
Sun, 09-16-2012 - 11:13pm
I know it'll be difficult, but sounds like it's for the best. I'm also divorcing after a good many years, 15, and I'm much happier now.

Good luck.

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Tue, 09-18-2012 - 6:59pm

I'm glad that you're getting a divorce.People who stay together for 'the kids' are only pouring more dirt on their graves..meaning their killing themselves more...anyways it will be tough BUT it is for the best.