Did you all go for HIV STD testing?

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Registered: 01-09-2010
Did you all go for HIV STD testing?
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Mon, 01-25-2010 - 10:28pm
What did it entail? Did he go too?

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Registered: 01-07-2010
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 10:57pm

I had my husband go get the full panel done for STDs before I would even let him touch me with a condom. He said it was extremely painful, as something has to get inserted somewhere.... = D

Of course, our circumstances are different than most on this site, as he was out of town on business for the full extent of the affair, which ended before he came back home. If you were active with your H while the A was going on, definitely get tested as well.

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Registered: 01-09-2010
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 11:22pm
H just stated that if they have to insert something, he's not going to let them, we'll have to rely on MY tests - I told him that's not fair, I wouldn't HAVE to have tests if he didn't go stick it somewhere he shouldn't have. To someone who let everyone else stick it there as well! Needless to say, I'm not happy if he should tell them they can't do that part of it. He should have it ALL- .......... thank goodness we go to the MC before the test, maybe he can talk some sense into him. As for the painful part - good, I've been through enough - and am still going through enough!!!! Your H went w/o arguement?
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Registered: 01-07-2010
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 7:46am
NO argument. I don't think he knew about the extent of the tests, but he even said he deserved every ounce of that pain. He had the tests done the day after D-Day.
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Registered: 08-11-2008
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 4:37pm
My DH and I went together. It was a requirement from me to him. Usually MM try to convince S women who sleep with them not to have S with anyone but them and usually the dummies don't have sexual relationships outside of their MM but you never know who they were with before and if they are willing to sleep with someone else's H they have no morals anyway. Either way you need to make sure you get a battery of tests done both you and him.
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Registered: 08-06-2008
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 6:16pm

I didnt go for the whole range of tests.

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Registered: 01-09-2010
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 6:28pm
Kathy, that's kinda the answer I got, don't believe it no matter what he says, I know better, this woman has quite the reputation and if she's sleeping with my H and then also with her remarried xH and he has been sleeping around on her and his now wife, then goodness knows how many that would count up to... I need to have everyone have the tests~
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Registered: 01-11-2010
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 9:39pm

My H resisted at first; saying, "I don't have anything!" and "The odds are rare."

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Registered: 01-26-2010
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 10:37pm
you should go with him and make him face the music, why should he be sparred the embarassment and humiliation that you have had to deal with because of his actions.
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Registered: 01-11-2010
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 11:46pm
mom-of2grls ...that is a good point!!!
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Registered: 01-26-2010
Wed, 01-27-2010 - 9:35am
You absolutely should go. You should not be humiliated by this alone. His actions caused the tumoil your life is facing right now and he should be facing the music with you. Who you

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