Don't know how much more I can take!

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Registered: 02-27-2009
Don't know how much more I can take!
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Tue, 03-17-2009 - 6:18pm

I just posted on this board yesterday about my husband's OW sending me harrassing messages. I got yet another message today from the OW and this time it really had an inpact on me. I have not said a single word to her.


Basically, she stated that she is proud of toying with my husband and she's also the best and has the best life over mine, etc. I really don't think that my husband knows that she's only toying with him emotionally.

Blusparklies

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 6:30pm
It really sounds like she is a total nut case in need of intense counseling. How could you have changed a message that was forwarded to him from her e-mail addy? For him to say something like this just goes to show you how deep he is in the affair fog. I've been thru this with my H when he was in the infatuation or temporary insanity stage of his A's. The OW can do no wrong in his mind. Hell I think my H could have seen her kill someone and he would have said "oh no it wasn't her but someone who looked like her"
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Registered: 02-27-2009
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 7:20pm

Yeah I bet if the OW was a homicidal maniac my H would be the first to say that

Blusparklies

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 7:23pm

Oh, if her life was so great she wouldn't be messing with somebody else's spouse.

 

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Registered: 11-13-2006
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 7:28pm

I am so sorry you are experiencing this.


I would find a way to block her e-mails, set them up to go directly to junk, whatever you need to do. Print out the ones you have though, and document anything she does, especially if it escalates to phone calls or personal contact. Many women on this board have been harassed by the OW and several have had to go to the police to get it stopped. Having evidence is key.


Do not read any more e-mails, no matter how curious you may be. You are too raw.


And, find a good counselor. You will need it, especially if your H is still in the fog.


MLB

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Registered: 10-11-2008
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 7:33pm

Not only is she a nut job, she's just plain nasty.

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 8:27pm

Yes, I believe that she is that evil.

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Registered: 02-27-2009
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 8:54pm

Fortunately, OW does not have my phone number. She only has my e-mail. I know it's in my best interest to block her completely, that's easy. What's not so

Blusparklies