emotional infidelity...

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Registered: 04-14-2010
emotional infidelity...
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 2:27am
hi there!

i totally feel embarrassed and i can't believe that i am even writing all of this down, but i really need some help...if only to vent so i don't explode...here is my unbelievable, yet not uncommon,

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 10:11am


My H is also guilty of emotional infedelity.... and I feel devestated as you are....and yes it was texting and nothing physical..

My H was texting a friend behind my back and also an ex girlfriend....

I knew he was in contact with both these people but he told me it was once a week.... however, I had that gut feeling everyone talks about.... I looked at the phone bill and saw that he was really texting them daily every day and from morning til nite anywhere from 20 to 100 texts a day..Unfortunately, he was great at erasing everything so I never got to see what was being said.. But it was enough for me to know that he lied and hide the extent of contact... and lets face it no married man should be texting other woman daily from morning til nite- that in itself is disrespectful and a betrayl as far as i am concerned

It sounds like your husband is remorseful...I wish my husband had more remorse...He was more interested in justifying his behavior than worrying about my feelings... Sounds like your H loves you, wish I could be so sure about my H.

It is devesating and horrible to go to bed one nite with the man you love and wake up with a stranger.......

I hope it works out for you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 12:42pm

I am exactly where you are now.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 1:38pm


thank you so much for your response.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2010
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 2:43pm

Hi hon...we are in the same boat, except mine was the living breathing evil entity called Facebook.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2010
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 7:47pm

hi there,

it's super easy to get all the info you want/need to see...text msgs, emails, photos, voice mails etc...even if they are deleted.

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Registered: 06-02-2006
Sat, 04-17-2010 - 12:51am

Dear Happyspirit~

A sad welcome to the BSSG ~ Here you will find knowledge, wisdom, kindness, understanding, support, room to vent and lots of strength and help.

Understand, that I believe for women, emotional infidelity is just as strong as physical, and can even be even worse.

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Registered: 03-24-2010
Sat, 04-17-2010 - 4:56pm

There is life after finding out .