Is ex fiance went out with us against my

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Is ex fiance went out with us against my
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Thu, 01-28-2010 - 3:37pm

my H ex fiance had been asking him when everyone is getting together. I informed him that I did not want to hang out with the ex fiance..I do not feel lik,e sitting their while they catch ujp..Theyh have not hung out in 17 yrs..and no reason too now..Well H acted like he respected my feelings and did not tell her when he was getting together with some old friends in his home town..His friend even sent him a message and asked if he should tell her the details of the get together and my H replied No...To my shock I look on facebook to see that he has posted to the world when and where we will be going out the night we went to his home town...Sure enough she showed up..With her boyfriend in tow...


I have not said a word to him..I am furious, sad and heartbroken. I dont see the point in discussing..He will say that he did not give her a personal invitation and I was there so there is nothing wrong with it...He obviously does not care about my feelings so what is there to discuss.


My view is I told him I did not want her there and he went right ahead and made sure she had the info to meet up with us. He completly ign ored my feelings...He doesnt care about my feelings and that

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 8:35pm
They didn't get married for a reason and he married you. Communicate with him. My fiance cheated on me with a 200 lb ex, so sex is the end result of an emootional affair.... if there is a wall up because of the txt talk to him and let the ex go... sounds like she has moved on. He cheated but I was unhappy and put up a wall... knock it down or it will only get worse... communicate with him or he will drift....
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Registered: 06-01-2009
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 10:28am

Thank for the reply...I rarely ever bring it up..I dont want to be accused of "throwing it in his face". He says I do that alot with different things....


We did talk about it the other nite a little. He brought it up.. He thinks I have not forgiven him....Actually, I think I have forgiven him..He has it wrong....The problem is not forgiveness...The problem I have is a lack of faith...Before this I had complete confidence in him and how he felt about me and the marriage..Now I feel unnsure about how he feels towards me...I no longer feel confident in the relationship..If that makes sense? I love him deeply and over time hopefully this will improve..