facebook affair.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2011
facebook affair.....
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Thu, 12-08-2011 - 12:47pm

I posted this in the thread all sides of an affair and she suggested I come here so here it is again.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Fri, 12-16-2011 - 10:03am

That's good that your H told you about the message and showed you the message!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2011
Fri, 12-16-2011 - 9:14am

So, the ow messaged h.

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Registered: 10-10-2011
Wed, 12-14-2011 - 11:49am

You don't care that he gets on the computer? Were you just saying that to be aloof? I think honesty in a relationship between two people where any sort of inappropriate behavior has occured is a two-way street. Say what you mean and mean what you say...even if it makes him uncomfortable.

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Registered: 12-08-2011
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 6:01pm

thanks everyone! I really believe it didn't go any further than the facebook. But, I also do believe that after a year it would of! The thing is there isno

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 2:30pm

New York is quite a drive from Virginia, but distance doesn't matter if they don't want it to.

 

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 12:45pm

I'm glad he cancelled his account. Not that this is any consolation, but you'd be surprised how many men get caught doing this kind of thing. Funny cause in the early years of my marriage no one even had home computers/internet and facebook.. It sure has opened the opportunity for this behavior. I think he needs to be an open book to you to prove his trustworthiness, you should be able to look at his computer/phone ANY time you want to, no lock code on anything etc.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 12:32pm
True.They do think they can do this stuff to boost their ego. And as long as there's no real physical contact their really not cheating. We see A LOT of this behavior on here and the EAS board. Seems like a lot of men are so insecure about their manliness that they feed on this attention from other women. Sad.
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Registered: 02-15-2008
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 9:25am

Hi trk3,

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Registered: 12-08-2011
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 9:01am

Before, and it has happened before when his job was really stressful. So, maybe that is all it is. I just found out about

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 12-08-2011 - 8:16pm
He may not have met her but he was definitely having inappropriate conversations with her. Could have just been online flirting to boost his ego.
If the sex has gone downhill lately he could just be mad at you for finding out about his online shenanigans. Did this drop in sex happen before or after you found out?