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Registered: 04-13-2010
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 5:49pm

hi! i posted this on the emotional affairs board too. just wanted to see what other opinions are out there. thanks!


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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:08pm

jenna

If he was talking about meeting her, especially more than once, I'd be very suspicious if I were you. I would also be suspicious about him changing his password AFTER you found all this stuff out. Just the opposite he has NOW got to be an open book to you, which means NO secret passwords or e mail accounts, no locking up or hiding his phone from you etc. He has broken your trust and he now should be working hard to repair it. I also HATE when they use the "mid life crisis" excuse to cheat or try to cheat. You need to get tough and tell him that you will not put up with him CHEATING OR HIDING things from you, and that he was and will be risking losing his family IF this behavior continues. Many times they will continue this UNTIL they realize what they have to lose, and they need to be told that.

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:30pm

Hi.


I am sorry to hear of your struggle.... My husband has been texting my friend behind my back and also another woman an ex...although I knew he was texting them he hid from me the extent..I was shocked and devestated to learn that he was texting them daily 20 to 100 times a day instead of once a week like he told me..... I know there was nothing physical in his case because they are both several hours away...and he has not been away from home...but the one girl the ex does live in his home town and now I would not trust him to go home without me...


anyway- about you....In my case even though i am certain there was nothing physical I still feel very betrayed, angry and sad.. actually devestated...


No matter whether your h did anything physical- he still hide this from you and that is how you know that he was wrong and doing something he should not have.. Even if he did not cheat physically it was inappropiate and way over the line....


and I think I would be extremely suspicious if I found emails/chats about them planning to meet up...''


I would not need physical contact to have occured, it would be enough for me that my H could be so deceptive.......The planning on meeting up is what really jumps out at me...


For me I think that would be enough to shove him out the door...But I am not you, so please do what you think is right...


actually- I wish had seen some of the emails/chats/texts that my husband had with these woman because than maybe it would be more clear to me in my situation what to do.. But I dont have that info cause my H deleted everything..


Good luck.It is so hard.. We so want to believe our spouse and believe the one we love would not do us wrong..but from the sounds of it your husband is doing you wrong wether it be physical or not..


I am so sorry...

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Registered: 04-02-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:40pm

I would suggest doing some better snooping to get incriminating evidence that cannot be denied or explained away.