Falling on hard times? Already? Shocking!!!

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Falling on hard times? Already? Shocking!!!
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Fri, 01-24-2014 - 8:15am

Hello everyone!!!

My XBF and I were hanging out with a coworker and her DH (Who is a cop) sometime over the summer when they asked him if he could put an addition onto their rental property (As you know he works for a contracting business that is near the hospital and they do work for the hospital and he also does work on the side)…He told them yes.

After I left him I told her about what he had done to me.  She told her DH and they both decided that they did not want him working on their home; especially around their female tenants.  They did not think he even remembered because he never called them anyway.

Yesterday afternoon she told me that her DH called her because he and another cop were at a car accident scene and were in the process of towing the cars.  XBF appeared out of nowhere and walked up to them and said to her DH, “HI Fred!”

The other cop ignored him and at first Fred did not recognize him as he had a hooded sweatshirt and had the hood covering his face.  He asked, “Does your friend still need that addition put on?”

Fred then realized who he was and said, “You mean my wife? No, sorry.  We already hired someone else.”

XBF did not leave and stood there, acting like he still wanted to talk.  The other cop continued to have his back turned and then Fred began ignoring him.  The owner of one of the vehicles began looking at him, wondering why he was standing there.  He finally got the hint and slinked away.

Really? At an accident scene??? Hurting for money are ya?????  Now that the lackey has left the building you have to get money somehow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DH told her that his cheeks were “Sunken in” and he looked gaunt.  He told her he thinks XBF is drinking again.  She said she thinks he was just making conversation to get the 411 on me…I told her, “Oh well. S*cks to be you!”

Better clean thyself up before going on your meetme.com date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

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Registered: 03-02-2002
Sat, 01-25-2014 - 4:44pm

Hi Gal!  Guess xbf is meeting our friend KARMA!  So glad you have good friends who actually take a stand rather than wanting to remain "neutral" like so many others.  They are right to keep him out of their home.  Just don't be surprised when he comes knocking at YOUR door.  Stay strong girl!

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sun, 01-26-2014 - 1:29am

Why do you care?  He's your ex.........and if you move on, you won't concern yourself with him or his hard times.  The other poster mentioned Karma.........and it has a way of coming back to get YOU for being happy at his hard fortune.

You need to move on with your life, he's no longer a part of it.  The best revenge (if you MUST have it) is living a happy life!

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 01-26-2014 - 4:00pm

You reap what you sow and he's finding that out really fast.  I'm glad your friends stood by you.  Who we associate with shows exactly what our character is.  I never have been one who has any respect for someone who doesn't stand up for what they believe in and these friends of yours sound like good people to me!

On another note:  I find it quite amusing that people who have posted about their ex and his OW getting exactly what they deserve find the need to take the moral high road when replying to you.  They need to heed their own advice, IMO.

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Registered: 06-17-2010

I totally agree, Lisa.  What goes around comes around. Hope you are doing well, too! :)  Like you said, I bet it won't be long until he does come knocking. So stay strong, Christy! Tell him "Sorry,  not interested in a case of 'cheater' and don't have any room for stupid in my life right now."  GW

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Registered: 06-07-2007
Mon, 01-27-2014 - 1:01pm

Thanks for the replies.   It really kills me that I was nothing to XBF but a puppet with a pu%%y.  

 

Had I not found those photos to Gmail, he would have continued to use me while dating on the internet; all the while lying to those women stating he was single.  And he does not use any protection if you know what I mean (We did in the beginning but stopped after a year of dating)

 

Now that I am MIA he is going out of his way to “bump” into my/our friends. Last week he ate at the hospital cafeteria on my day off (They have good food and you don’t need to be a patient/staff to eat there) and he jumped out of his seat when he saw my coworker; opened his arms real wide and yelled out, “What’s goin’ on?!” She replied, “None of your business,” and kept going (She is an older nurse who is slightly jaded...She told me she never liked him and had him “pegged” from day one).

 

He then told a mutual friend, “Christy’s given me the brush-off.  She’s accusing me of things I didn’t do!”  The mutual friend then had the nerve to ask me, “Do you think there’s any truth to that? That you made it up in your own head?” (In regards to him being on the dating website)  I asked how could I if I have the profile printed up and in my purse (Right with the 180 list by the way) and the mutual friend said in a condescending manner, “This is true.”  HUH??????

 

I guess I should not care about XBF’s “Bad fortune” and should not post about it…but I did as the groom said in the movie “Cruel Intentions, “Cause it feels so darn good!!!”

 

Christy

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Registered: 06-17-2010

LOLOLOL@ me!  I misread your first paragraph and thought "A puppet with a puppy???? WTH does that mean?" LOLOLOLOL A blonde moment~they happen sometimes! :)  But you weren't a puppet. You were a loving, caring person to someone who didn't deserve you.

Yes, had you not found out about the photos and the dating site he signed up on, he would still be doing it and with who knows who...if you know what I mean....and you do, you bad,bad girl! lol JK!  No, seriously, he  could have given you an STD or passed along HIV.  So, by getting him out of your life you may very well have saved it! 

I don't know your coworker, of course, but I like her! She sounds like a no-nonsense person who doesn't have the time of day for people with no integrity.  I'm betting he hopes he doesn't 'bump' into HER again anytime soon.

In regards to the mutual friend asking if you might have made it up in your own head....I'm sorry but what an idiot! That's about the stupidest and most insulting thing I've ever heard. He's obviously playing the victim and lying to the friend and they were taken in by him. Let that BS go in one ear and out the other.  That person is somebody who sooner or later will learn about him the hard way~when he uses them someday to suit his purpose.  But hey, Christy, if you CAN cause things to materialize just by your thoughts, please let me know. I'd like for you to think really, REALLY hard about me living in a huge English manor with about 100 servants...and I'd like to lose some weight ,too, if its not too much trouble. Think HARD, SISTA! LOL

You should always post whatever you want that makes you feel better. All you did was reaffirm what it says in the Bible~you reap what you sow. Its the rare person you doesn't feel at least a tiny bit vindicated when the betrayer starts reaping. Its very hard to be happy for someone who has hurt us, especially when that hurt is still new.  I might also note that while we are to forgive, I also heard a well respected pastor say the other day that sometimes it is right to pray for hardship  that will cause the person to turn from their hurtful ways because they are only going to cause themselves more harm if they don't change. (I'm opting for that! lol) None of us is perfect; we're all human. (Except for my exH....he's a pecan!:)


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Registered: 06-07-2007
Wed, 01-29-2014 - 11:45am

Hey GW!!!! You are way too funny….The puppet with a pu%%y thing wasn’t my saying…The nurse who told XBF “None of your business” made it up when we were talking about the male nurse I posted to your answer on the HI Gal post…(A great read!!!)

Anyway if you read the other post you’ll see that XBF is spouting bonnets about how happy and carefree he is.  (Although Fred said, "BS! He looked like Sh&* when I saw him!") Oh, I am tired of going out of my way to avoid him…

In happier days we had discussed him retiring this year and we were to marry for him to get on my medical benefits…I’m hoping he will still plan to retire and get the f*%k out of this city, as he is always in the area near the hospital and is like a bad rash…

I think he and your XH should become friends!!!! A match made in heaven!!!

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Registered: 06-17-2010
The HI Gal post? I don't see it on here. Lisa referred to it, too....am I missing something here? Anyway, I REALLY like that coworker of yours! lol I think XBF and XH should be friends, too. They could stab each other in the back for us! lol
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Registered: 06-07-2007
Fri, 01-31-2014 - 8:32am

Sorry GW…It’s on the “Gal Christy Any Fun News?!” Post…!!!!

When I came to work today I saw the clown cars around the property…I guess his company is working on some areas around the hospital…

So I might bump into him today. Wish me luck!!!!

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Registered: 06-07-2007
Fri, 01-31-2014 - 2:28pm

Well, I didn’t bump into XBF today….Although I went to get lunch today and was pulling up to the sub shop when I saw one of the clown cars…Someone was standing behind it…The person wearing jeans and work boots…I could not tell if it was him or someone else so drove right by and went to another sub shop!!!!!

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