Figuring him out
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|Fri, 04-10-2009 - 9:05pm|
You might remember me, I posted a little while ago about needing computer help. Well I got my software downloaded and its working great. I feel very comfortable with it. DH will be home soon so I've been trying to prepare myself and I was wondering if anyone had advice for me.
If he admits it to me, what do I do then? I do want to forgive him and move on, but how can I know if he will just do it again or be more sneaky?
To complicate matters, I think he does truly love me and want to stay with me, but he probably also wants sex on the side if he can have both. He is able to justify just about anything (its amazing to hear him do it). He has very low self esteem, and the highest libido I've ever heard of. No I can't keep up with him, but I try.
How can I know whether I'm being too naive or too paranoid??
BTW, In case your wondering whether I know for sure he's cheating, the answer is no, but the reason more than some of his suspicious behaviors is that the moment he was out of town and my house was quiet and still I heard my intuition and it hit me hard. I can feel that he's done something to hurt me and violate my trust. Sometimes I would wake up as he climbed into bed and I just got this icky feeling, like he was up to something and then had nightmares for the rest of the night. Anyway, I really trust my intuition. It has helped tell me things when there were no other signs.