FIL is driving me UP THE WALL!!!!

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FIL is driving me UP THE WALL!!!!
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Tue, 09-27-2011 - 6:13pm

I appreciate, in advance, anyone who reads this in its entirety. It feels good just to get it all out, and look forward to advice and comments!! <3

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 02-21-2012 - 10:44pm
Well, this is a totally unhealthy situation - even for your FIL. When people get older sometimes their thinking gets muddled or plain old off, but I don't really hear that. I'll throw in one incident when my husband's grandmother was staying with his mother and father, the 4 daughters switched off month at a time taking care of her. One time my DH's father encountered the MIL in the bathroom, using a bath towel instead of toilet paper, and he was livid and let her know it. Her response: you owe me this. That didn't fly with anybody and it was the last time she stayed with them, since now "they knew". It sounds like he's quite comfy with the situation he has and unless your husband steps in and sees to it this mess doesn't totally destroy your own household, it's not going to change since the FIL isn't about to pay a bit of attention to YOU. Of course no one wants to believe they let their parents down at the end of their lives, and it sounds like there may well be some true mental issue going on. All the more reason to get him fully evaluated and find out what's real and what isn't. It is NOT fair for you to have this entire burden, that's often how it turns out, unfortunately, it's "woman's work" to so many. I read something in a magazine just today, something how it isn't just the health of the person being cared for that counts - if the situation wipes out the caregiver, it's being done unfairly to begin with.

 

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Wed, 02-22-2012 - 7:13am

(((annie)))

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