To forgive or not?

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Registered: 12-20-2009
To forgive or not?
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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 4:23pm

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Registered: 10-25-2007
Sat, 03-13-2010 - 1:23pm
By not forgiving you are really only hurting yourself by letting this control your thought and your life. I have gone through WAY worse with my spouse and I forgave him and we are continuing our life and family together. I too had such a hard time forgiving but FINALLY realize that it was really only me it was hurting. I was letting these thoughts and feelings consume me and in turn I was not being the person I am meant to be. Of course it does take some work from him but if you truly love him and feel you have a shot at a great life together you need to try. Unfortunately people make mistakes all of the time and you just have to hope he learned his lesson and this will make him a better person and companion. It will take time to regain his trust and he need to understand that, but if it is worth it I say try! Read the book Freedom to Forget. it is amazing and puts everything in a whole new perspective. The world was against me when I decided to forgive my spouse and stay, but it is the best decision i have made and I am so much stronger of a person and our marriage is better than it ever has been. just do me a favor and as embarrassing as it is do what is going to make you happy and not what others think you should do. It is your life and forgiving does not mean forgetting, it just means your relationship is not perfect. No ones is....You just have some rebuilding to do!