Found out last night about PA 2

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Registered: 02-12-2011
Found out last night about PA 2
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Sat, 02-12-2011 - 12:13pm

I have been a long time lurker on this board and I finally have the courage to post my story about the events of last night.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 12:22pm
I'd probably get out if i were you. You spent all that time in counseling and rebuilding for what? For him to turn around and do this all over again. I firmly believe you give a man the benefit of the doubt after ONE mistake, but,if after counseling and rebuilding it happens again, THAT'S IT, he has proven himself a serial cheater who is NOT able to REMAIN faithful.
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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 02-13-2011 - 12:12am
peaceyma wrote:
I'd probably get out if i were you. You spent all that time in counseling and rebuilding for what? For him to turn around and do this all over again. I firmly believe you give a man the benefit of the doubt after ONE mistake, but,if after counseling and rebuilding it happens again, THAT'S IT, he has proven himself a serial cheater who is NOT able to REMAIN faithful.

Millymel-

Hi. Sorry to hear the news. I agree that you are better off leaving him. With him being with two women that you know about, he has shown himself to be a serial cheater. Serial cheaters are simply not good risks. It will be too strong a temptation for him always.

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 4:56pm
I avoid telling others to leave, esp. since I've stayed loooooooon after I should have left myself. I know, though, from my own experience that finding out they've done it again DURING rebuilding stings a thousand times worse than the first time. Right about now I'd suggest you stop thinking about HIM or the relationship and see a therapist just for yourself. He had the opportunity to say no, apparently several times, but he said yes and betrayed you again. I don't hear any talk of him changing his tune here or doing anything to fix it all. That's HIS job, not yours. I'd think you're now just going to keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, expecting to find out even more crappola. Just think about yourself and what's best for you, too bad he didn't do the same. How about at least time apart?

 

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Tue, 02-15-2011 - 8:03am

So sorry you are in this position again.