Found out while husbands in Afghanistan

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Registered: 12-02-2011
Found out while husbands in Afghanistan
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Fri, 12-02-2011 - 1:47pm
He has been having an affair with the wife I a couple friend for several months. The reason I found out is because she told her husband she was in love with mine and he panicked and told me . He did not come clean with his part until I point blank told him to fess up. I made him tell me everything. How she came to our house and bluntly ask him to f$&k her and when he said no she took off her cloths laid out on our stairs and said are u sure. He again said no. This behavior kept up for about a month before he had sex with Her but then he rented hotel rooms for them and thought he fell in love. After a few months he realized it wasn't love that he loved me and tried to break it off, twice and she would not let up. So he took a job that took him to Utah for 3 months then overseas. She still pursued him and basically put him on the spot Told him she told her husband she was In love. I feel so betrayed and lied to I go from numb to anger to crying. And right now I know I love him but not in love and if he ask me to marry him I would panick because I don't know the answer. What is next??? I want to be In love with him again be we are apart how do you fix this when ur 1000's of miles apart? I'm so torn.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 1:45am
Her behavior could not have continued beyond the first time she took her clothes off UNLESS HE ALLOWED IT. He could have easily kicked her out the second time she came over knowing what her intentions were. Really you should reconsider whether you want to be with or marry a guy that has cheated while you were living together. Will you ever really trust him again?
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Registered: 12-02-2011
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 2:35pm
Forgot to mention we have been married 27 years no kids so their is a lot of investment in the relationship