Gal Christy Any Fun News?!

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Gal Christy Any Fun News?!
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Sun, 01-19-2014 - 4:56pm

Hi Gal!  Have been reading your posts and just wanted to know if you've gone on any dates recently?  I know that you were working on putting yourself "out there" which is such a tough thing to do after these awful experiences.  So just wanted to see if you have been having any fun!  I joined a gym which was so intimidating for me.  Esp when I didn't have an ounce of self-esteem left.  But i'm so glad I did.  I actually try to look nice when I go (goofy I know!) and I smile and talk to people.  It just makes me feel better--to be  out with others.  Plus, the view is pretty sweet there lol!

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Sun, 01-19-2014 - 8:31pm

Hi Lisa,

 

No dates yet as Steve has decided to go back with his XGF..

 

I actually had a bad day today..My XBF knows a couple he has been friends with about 20 years.  They became my friends as well..I was driving on my lunch break when I saw the wife driving.  She pulled over and began beeping her horn.  She started signaling me to pull over with a big smile on her face (She obviously does not know we broke up)..  I did not wish to talk to her and explain what happened as no matter what I say she and DH’s loyalty lie with XBF.  I pretended I did not see her and took a quick left out of the area.  Part of me wanted to tell her how much a scumbag her friend is.  The other part of me wanted nothing to do with her.  So I kept going. 

 

I was so upset when I got back to work.  I called my good friend and we talked for a while. She agreed that I did the right thing.  She was really helpful and told me how proud of me she is.  She sent nice texts and pics about loving ourselves and when ppl treat you badly it reflects on the person they are; not you. 

 

Later she sent me a text that we are going on the triple date sometime next week to a sports bar/bowling alley.  I haven’t bowled in years so I am excited about it.

 

I have been thinking about joining a gym, too now that I have all this time on my hands.  Like you I also started putting makeup on and making myself look nice.  I was alone this weekend as the kids went away and I was really upset as no one could hang out.  I actually had a better time than I thought I would.  So like all of us I am just trying to move on..I’m glad you joined the gym that sounds fun!!! Sending hugs J

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Thu, 01-23-2014 - 2:09am

So glad to hear this, Lisa! And LOL@the view comments! Take care and be proud of yourself! BIG HUG! GW

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Thu, 01-23-2014 - 2:15am
So sorry you had a bad day, Christy, but I'm so thankful your friend was there for you. I think you did the right thing. The triple date sounds like its going to be fun! I wanna go, too! lol Sounds like you're getting out there, baby, and kicking A$$ and taking names! lol Loving life and getting back in it is so important, as you know. You, Lisachilene, and ALL of us are in my prayers (except the WS's; I'm not that sweet :). I'm proud of you both!
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Thu, 01-23-2014 - 12:23pm

Thanks GW.  I guess I am not so sweet, either.  One of his coworkers got hurt during at a jobsite (He slipped and fell on the ice and was taken to the ER) and one of my coworkers asked about what happened.  I told her what happened and I said, “Too bad it wasn’t someone else!”

J Christy

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Thu, 01-23-2014 - 6:33pm

LOL We're human and aren't always going to be 'sweet'.  Especially when we're dealing with ppl who aren't sweet themselves!  Take my XH for example...(no DONT please, I wouldn't wish that on anyone except his AP who dumped him when he ran out of money :) He's behind on CS and alimony a lot lately, alimony in particular. I've tried to work with him on it when he said he had to have truck repairs and could only pay half in Sept.  Its January now and he's still only paying half and not on time. I've tried working with him, giving him the benefit of the doubt but he's just a jackass. HE is above the law and will do what he wants, when he wants. (I don't think so, Skippy!)  But you see its MY fault he's not able to pay on time and because HE can't pay on time, he says I'm a bad mother. WTH????? He hasn't showed up in over a year to see our daughters, no word, no explantion why, just stopped coming to see them altogether, moved and refused to give them his address but its MY fault that he doesn't show up to see his kids. He's a certified PECAN! Then he says everyone including some of your family know how you are and that you use our disabled D as a crutch....Oh really? I have 5 relatives alive, which one said that? "Your aunts and uncles who knows" As I have only ONE aunt left it has to be Wendy then.  I'll have to ask her about saying that to you.  He liked to have come apart! LOL  (He had no idea that my other aunts had passed away in the last few years). Of course, Wendy did not say anything like that and hasn't seen him or had any contact with him in years. Yet he felt the need to slander my 'aunts' in a lie to make himself feel better.  A shrink would have a field day with this idiot.

I told him everytime you don't pay and I call you out on it, you attack and accuse me of being the person YOU are. He's mad at himself because the consequences of his actions and the bad choices he made hurt so many ppl and cost him sooo much money. So he attacks and accuses everyone else to alievate his anger and guilt and I told him exactly that!  He can ignore his kids, do whatever he wants but regardless of that he is still responsible for paying what the judge set and is NOT above the law. He either pays or I file a contempt of court motion against him, take him back to court where he will wind up paying my attorney fees, his attorney fees, court costs plus being ordered to pay what he owes to start with in the manner the judge declared in the divorce decree.  And potentially time in jail, lost of his driver's license,  and loss of state ordered license he has to have to do his job. Its his call.  I've been patient, tried to work with him to avoid this but he chooses to be a dork.

I set boundaries with him long ago. If he crosses the line, I tell him what I will do if he continues with this behavior or action and I follow through with it. I don't have the time nor the inclination to listen to his excuses and lies. It is what it is, dude~get over it. He did it to himself.

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Fri, 01-24-2014 - 8:36am

HI GW,

OMG you are too funny!!! Your XH sounds like a royal dumba$$...I don’t know who is worse: my XH, your XH or my XBF…hmmmmm it’s a tossup!!!! 

So typical…Why do they blame everyone else for their actions…My XH was notorious for that crap…

And his lying about your aunts? What a loser. My XBF did the same thing.  When we split up for a month I dated (Casually) two guys; he found out about it and came crawling (Err…I mean sprinting) back…When we got back together he informed me that I cheated on him as we were not broken up; we were merely taking a break and said, “I was told you dated two married guys!!!” I asked him who told him that and lo and behold, he could not come up with an answer.  Loser with Capital L!!!

I also have been told that I am a bad mother by both he and XH…Yet they can’t handle the kids when they acted up…Shocking…XBF also told me I am self-centered..huh???? I work full time; teach self-defense classes to women and raise my two children.  Ok.. I give up...I am self-centered dam**t!!!!

I know what you mean when you say he did it to himself…Like I said to XH when he came crawling back, “You sacrificed our happiness for the happiness of OW.  I hope her happiness was worth it.”

Same for you mo-fo…I hope the happiness of some woman on meetme.com was worth our happiness….

XBF’s company drives around in a contracting pickup truck and they cram all the ding-a-lings in the truck along with him inside (I lovingly call it the clown car!)  I passed the clown car today going to work and did not even look their way…

 

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Sun, 01-26-2014 - 4:37pm
LOLOL@ the clown car! EXH is in construction, too, and they all used to ride around together in one truck. Funny thing is though, all of his coworkers have no use for him after they found out what he did. They all supported me and even helped me when we had to move out of the house.
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Sun, 01-26-2014 - 4:42pm

BTW, I don't which one is worse either but I wouldn't waste a bullet on any of them. :D

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Mon, 01-27-2014 - 1:42pm

Hey GW…I am glad his coworkers were on your side.  Unfortunately, XBF has lied to everyone making me to be a nutcase who has “Made up in her own head that he is on a dating website!”

 

Most of his coworkers do not like him (Not b/c of me.. they never got along with him and he has had issues/arguments with bosses and coworkers in the past) There is a female construction worker who can’t stand him…Some others warned me about him when I first began dating him (i.e. “You better watch out, you’ll be the next flavor of the week,” “Why are you with him? He is a loser,”) But I choose not to believe rumors…

 

The ones who do like him used to give me dirty looks but I try to avoid the whole bunch…

 

Oh well.  You live and learn.  F**k ‘em all I say!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

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Wed, 01-29-2014 - 12:46am

What the dingbat doesn't stop to think when he's lying to everyone about why you left him, the fact is YOU ARE GONE and ppl who have a brain in their heads know you didn't just up and leave for no reason.  The more he protests and claims his innocence that he WASN'T cheating on a dating website, he just proves that that's exactly what he was doing.

He sounds a lot like my exH. It got to the point where none of his coworkers could stand him because of his arrogance and "I'm smarter and better at the job than you" attitude. I was so ashamed of the way he would belittle some of the guys he worked with, especially one guy who was so nice and tried so hard. He became a foreman on one job and my XH couldn't stand it.  XH seemed to get pleasure out of making this guy look like a fool and calling him out in front of all the other coworkers.  The older he got the more he became exactly like his father and his mother. IMO, the whole dysfunctional bunch had such low self esteem that they had to berate and belittle other people to make themselves feel better. All the "Addams family" was missing was Uncle Fester and it would have been complete, so bad was their dysfunction. lol  One female coworker told him once "I think of you as a god." XH said "Really?" , and I'm sure his ego was skyrocketing until she said, " Yeah, a god ^&#@ IDIOT!"  I don't condone the use of blasphemy but THAT said it all! LOL

You know the thing about it all is that no matter what anyone else thinks, you know the truth and so do the people who truly know him.  To the others and the coworkers who give you dirty looks, the nice thing is you don't have to be around or have anything to do with those people, so whatever they think means nothing.  That's one of the perks of breaking off a relationship with a cheater~you don't have to have a relationship with their friends, their coworkers or the "Addams family" anymore!  And so begins the new chapter of Christy without the dead weight of the dorks! :)

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