Getting my Story Out

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Registered: 06-10-2009
Getting my Story Out
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Wed, 06-10-2009 - 3:23pm

So for the two days I have read many posts on here and most if not all have been very helpful.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 5:57pm

IMO you have an amazing handle on the situation.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 06-28-2007
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 6:03pm
Dang man, I feel for you. I swear this is the most painful thing that I have had to endure. If it were me,
If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it!
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Registered: 06-10-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 11:09am

I really don't know if I have a good handle of things as of yet. My Initial reaction was to figure out what I did wrong in our relationship and come to grips with it.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 12:41pm

These are valid concerns on your part.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 06-10-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 3:23pm

Wow that is so true. And she has started to say as much. She just apologised the other day saying that she knew she hurt me and she can't believe who she has become. She says she feels lost and is having problems opening herself up emotionaly and that she needs to heal herself and she asked for time for that to happen. Question is ...can I wait.


Man its hard but she is making efforts, she calls me daily form work to tell me what she is doing etc. She has become more attentive to me in some respects and has been aplogising when she feels she has had an unwarrented response towards me. All so far have been recent changes. So maybe there is progress and I just haven't been realising it. Thanks for reading and your responses everyone. It truely has been a gift. Crap Im a man and I feeling like crying. The things we put up with for love.....Holy crap I can't believe I am in this space right now

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Registered: 06-10-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 3:46pm
On a side note..THANK YOU EVERYBODY for your input and well to this board in general .
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 3:47pm

Wow that is so true. And she has started to say as much. She just apologised the other day saying that she knew she hurt me and she can't believe who she has become. She says she feels lost and is having problems opening herself up emotionaly and that she needs to heal herself and she asked for time for that to happen.


OK, this is big.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 06-10-2009
Thu, 06-11-2009 - 5:17pm

Again wow thanks for the input. I


It really is an emotional rollercoaster. I was brought up pretty old fashioned church and the whole 9 yards but have grown and have learned through my life. I just was never prepared for this. I have been through and experianced deaths in family, friends, even a tragic work related death and being the first responder to it. And nothing , I mean nothing has come close to what I am experiancing. I don't know why but reading your reply ...No scratch that . Reading your replies have help come to make me realise that I'm not alone,

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Registered: 06-11-2009
Fri, 06-12-2009 - 11:35am
About the crying thing - he is right.
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Registered: 06-19-2009
Sat, 06-20-2009 - 4:44pm

An update from Me: first off let me say I changed my name on this board. I had trouble signing in and created a new account after I got frustrated. I was originaly stevesfun1. The name changed but the bad typing hasn't.


Now for my update: So Thurday I had a trigger kind of day. Depressed, really doubting my ability to keep this going, couldn't sleep that night and then it hit me I was having a trigger day. I recognised what it was and did a little journal writing. I come to realise I have questions regarding the A that I never asked but have been bothering me and I let them l stay under the surface. I write them down for future reference thinking I will talk to the W about when the opportunity is ripe for it.


So Friday comes around.....


Well we had, or

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