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|Thu, 02-19-2009 - 10:07pm|
I'm a newbee here but I need to get some advice. On jan 26 I found out that my husband of 25 years is having an affair. He was working Mon to Fri in another city and met this woman. It has been going on for about 4 months. He told me. I was in total shock! But I love him and wanted to work it out. He agreed to break it off and work on our marriage. A week later he told me he couldn't take it and moved out. A few days later we met for coffee and again agreed to work on the marriage and moved back in. That was a Fri night. On Tues night he was at the gym and I looked at his e-mails. There were messages from her. He was telling her that he missed her and loved her. Anger, shock, sadness, I can't describe what I felt. When he got home I confronted him and once again he promised to cut off communication and work on our marriage. Tonight I looked through his e-mail again including all his folders. I found the stash of e-mails from her. To his credit he has not communicated with her since the night I confronted him but reading those e-mails and what he said to her and what he told her about me makes me feel like old worn out shoe.
This has been an emotional roller coaster and I don't know how to handle it. Any words of advice would be appreciated.