Got a good Mantra to share?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2010
Got a good Mantra to share?
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 12:31am

I think I (and many of us here) need some mantras or some sort of "saying" or sentence to help me get through those times when:

-Mind movies won't stop

-I don't know where my husband is

-I don't know if my husband wants to R or D

- I think about the good times and want to cry



iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 4:11pm

To thine own self be true.

Happiness is wanting what you have.


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2009
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 12:34am

First, tell yourself over and over again that what happened did not happen by YOUR choice. Ask yourself how YOU made the decision for them to cheat on you. Did you pick out the gal / fella they were banging? Probably not. It was a decision they made and it was out of your control. Take time for you, do things you enjoy doing, be selfish (not self-destructive)! You owe it to yourself after all that you’ve been through.

Next, realize it isn’t because you are less of a person that they made their decision. Often times it is a problem within themselves, such as an unresolved relationship, feelings of worthlessness (they sure justified that feeling didn’t they). They might have been intimidated by you; it could be something small like your ease at socializing, number of friends, closeness with family. Whatever the reason, they chose to get involved with someone outside the relationship to increase their feeling of control IN the relationship. There is something most certainly something wrong with them if they think betraying trust in any relationship is acceptable behavior.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2010
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 11:15am

Good stuff. I found

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-12-2003
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 12:30am
Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop trying to figure out precisely how we feel, stop deciding with our mind what we want our heart to feel...Sometimes we just have to go with whatever happens-happens!
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2008
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 7:48am
This is the will of God.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2007
Tue, 02-09-2010 - 1:54pm

No condition is "good" or "bad". It just IS. All conditions are temporary. Which way a thing changes depends on you.

Nothing has any meaning except the meaning "I" give it.

Life is a creation, not a discovery.

Nothing has any meaning save the meaning I give it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2010
Tue, 02-09-2010 - 4:57pm

I can't change it, I couldn't control it, I didn't cause it.

You are the love of your life

The most important relationship in life is the one with yourself.

To avoid pain at all costs forces us to reject half the lessons life can teach.

I don't always get to know why

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2007
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 9:55am
Trust No One
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2007
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 2:05pm

I've always liked the Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2008
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 4:58pm

Be strong

Stay focused

Stay calm

Be patient