Got proof . . . he did it AGAIN . . . with HER!
||Wed, 10-24-2012 - 10:06pm
I'm new here but, sadly, I'm not new to being a betrayed spouse.
I just caught my husband red-handed (as in texting and e-mailing) in his THIRD affair with the SAME WOMAN. He had a long-term affair with her years ago. I caught them. Thought they both moved on. Got over the pain and rebuilt our marriage. Had a short interaction with her shortly after that. I caught him AGAIN. They ended it. Recently, I suspected problems again and gained access to his e-mail and phone. The messages were over the top: "I love you . . . will never let go of you . . . blah blah blah." THREE STRIKES!
When I confronted him this time, he downplayed his emotions for this woman -- showed me he cut her off -- and vowed to work on us, but COME ON! I handed him his own words this time, so he had no where to go and nothing to deny. How can he say he has never let her go and still loves her after all this time if it's not true? Based on his words to him, there's nothing for me to work on with him. What's worse, I really have no illusions that he WON'T pick up with her again in the future based on his past behavior. Trust is destroyed at this point. Can we rebuild?
We have a 12-y-o daughter and I can't even begin thinking about breaking up this family, but I'm heartbroken. And miserable.