Is the grass greener?????

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Is the grass greener?????
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 11:00am

I was just wondering, have your H or W ever gone on to live with or marry the OW or OM?

Just found out that my H has been having an affair for years.

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Registered: 02-02-2009
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 12:29pm


I'm sorry that you are dealing with this.


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Registered: 01-09-2008
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 6:47pm
My XH did end up with his OW.
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 7:40pm

Hello Sky,

Mine went back to his ex-wife after we had been married for 3 1/2 years, he is living with her now.


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Registered: 09-05-2006
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 8:19pm

please read my response to '8 years later and i still hate ow'.

your husband is probably going no where. why, because he thinks he is living the perfect life. he has 'it' and he has YOU - he is living the life of riley.

now that you know i would encourage you to draw the line in the sand now. you need to communicate to him that you are not going to subject yourself to this kind of disrespect. do not fall for the maricopa, maricopa, maricopa. so many men will tell you anything and everything when they first find out, thinking if they can just get over this hump, ride it out they will be back in business once the heat is off.

i would encourage you to read as many posts on this site as possible. there are many many women on this site who are wise, caring, and insightful

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Registered: 11-15-2008
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 8:30pm

My stbx left almost 2 years ago and moved straight in with OW and her kids in a different province.

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Registered: 06-03-2008
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 10:58pm

My XH moved in with the OW, 4 hours away,

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 1:01pm

My H left me to live with the OW. They have been together for 12 months. I gave up any hope at a reconcillaton and after much soul searching, and in order to heal emotionally I filed for divorce on January 15/09. He was served on January 25/09 and no one has heard from him since.

He seems to think the grass is greener, maybe it is he now has no responsibilities as far as any of his kids go, he can drink heavily and not have to worry about getting kids to or from school, or tidy a home. He now owes 1,100/month in child support to two women, he is broke, he has a crappy job, lives in a leaky duplex, and has no idea how long he may be with the OW, and has had no contact with any of his kids in 5 weeks, so if thats the grass is greener for him, he is welcome to have it.

I am closer to his older children (my former stepkids) than he will ever be, and their mom and I are good friends, sadly she can tell you more about my kids and vice versa than he can. apparently OW and her child are much more important to him.

I truly believe she is nothing more than convenience, a place to live amongst other things, and someday he will tire of her too.

Edited 2/19/2009 1:10 pm ET by doublesmommy