he noticed...

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2009
he noticed...
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Sun, 06-13-2010 - 12:21am

My H the other day mentioned this- "you havent given me any cards lately, or given me any surpises."

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-21-2010
In reply to: nda3
Sun, 06-13-2010 - 4:20pm

I can understand how you feel.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2007
In reply to: nda3
Sun, 06-13-2010 - 9:00pm
Have you talked to him about the text messaging? What does he say? If you don't talk to him he will continue having the best of both worlds! Good luck!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2009
In reply to: nda3
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 9:53am

Hi..


Yes the text messaging did stop..This was a 4 moths ago that this happened...He knew that if he continued on that path that there would be no marriage at least not with me......


We have even gone to counseling...


We are getting along fine....We rarely argue, but than again we never have argued very much...Usually we have a lot of fun and that is why I dont know how this all happened in the first place, well yeah I do- he let it happen...He was supposed to be minding the store and he wasnt, he let the robbers in!!!!!!!!!!


I guess the whole thing comes down to is- he is right I am mad....and I dont know how long it will be for that feeling to go away... He lied to me cause I asked him over and over again about the texting, didnt finout truth till I looked at the phone bill...and of course i am mad about how much texting was going on...


He did stop...but still it never should have happened to begin with..

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2007
In reply to: nda3
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 12:31pm

I'm so sorry you have to go through something like this. That feeling may take a while to get rid off. They are very sorrowful feelings!!! Trusting is hard.....I think we all know this in here. It's good to talk about it. Just keep an eye out. Don't raise any flags. Lay low and watch if this starts up again. He might find other ways to communicate with them. But, then again, he may feel that he doesn't want to hurt you any further and stop all together.