he packed cialis for a trip without me

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Registered: 03-05-2011
he packed cialis for a trip without me
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Sat, 03-05-2011 - 8:24pm

We have been living together for 4 years and here I was helping him pack for his radio trip.

I was going to put a sweet note in the side pocket only to discover he had a blister pack of cialis in that pocket.

We normally keep those in the nightstand drawer and there is no way these got there from a previous trip we took together.

Also the blister pack he ripped it out of the original sample cardboard book type box and folded it in 3

The warning signs for me is this time instead of him doing this fest for the two days he's gone this morning and making it a 4 night trip.

This is my home and at this point I want to change the locks and tell him to move on my first instinct.

Sad part is both of us are widows and went through the same thing.

What would you do and how would you confront him?

I myself would like to say how would he feel if I packed condoms in my bag for a weekend trip.

Update: I called him on it on the phone and he said he'd call later that was wednesday and as you can probably guess he has not called me once and its been 4 days now.

I texted him last night I know stupid maybe but I told him sorry for his luck to dismiss me like that but he was not welcome to freeload in my home anymore.

he also has an emotional affair last year with a hs girlfriend but that never amounted to anything other than the emotional thing.

I know my message is rambled but I'm so worried about him becoming violent tomorrow when he tries to just come back here...he's that selfish and self centered that he will odds are be trying that approach.

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Registered: 09-18-2007
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 1:30am
When they pack their ED chems, they are on the prowl. Sorry to be so blunt about this, but sadly, it's most often true. The best I can offer in advice is say sternly to him "you can't bully me anymore"! If he's already potentially violent, there's not much you can do to rectify it besides just repeating the mantra. My best to you. Hold your head up high!
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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 8:04am

I just wanted to check in with you and see how it went when he got home?

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 8:23am

((((Brokenheartedinohio)))

Change the locks, tell him you are doing so and be thankful that you are not married to this person.

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Registered: 09-18-2007
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 6:41pm
Ollie,

Your reply was so much better than mine! I agree with everything you said and hope BrokenheartinOhio follows your sage advice. Those EDs my STBX hid from me marked the final straw in my long-term marriage. At least Brokenhearted isn't married to him and is now forced to decide whether to stay after he's obviously strayed (or showed his willingness to), or be miserable and constantly suspicious. That's no way to live, and any number of us on this board know that!


Sending (((((HUGS))))) to BrokenheartedinOhio. Keep your chin up and do what's right for YOU!

GoddessSunny
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Registered: 09-09-2008
Sat, 03-12-2011 - 2:20am
I see no reason why he'd need cialis AT ALL when going out of town without you, sounds like a no brainer. Has he come up with any explanation whatsoever?