I am needing help!
Hi h2k, Hugs,Did you tell him no contact? That would be a must for me. No contact means no phone calls--zip--no communication-- so even if they do not physically meet phone calls are still contact. Question is what do YOU feel about this? You are the one who must live with his choice to continue the A. Do not believe a word he tells you! He must back up his desire to rebuild with actions.
I'm glad you have seen an attorney. Be strong and tell him what you feel, need and require in your marriage! Try to keep your composure when you talk to him and hang in there! If he needs to hear that you spoke with an attorney to know you mean business than so be it. I think the WS will continue the behavior until we really let them know we will not accept it. Be strong my friend!
I guess that I did not tell him No Contact, because he told me that it was over before I found out and all the proof I had agreed with that.
I have all his passwords to all his account.
I'm very sorry this is happening to you. I hope things went better than you expected. If not, we are here for you.
I have 5 kids ages 16-10. Our D Day was August, 2008.
ThomasWe have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.
The experts and the books say the very first thing that HAS to happen if you have a prayer of this all working out is he has to go NO CONTACT.
He came home.
Good for you being strong. Your H now knows he can not "talk" to this person and you mean business. As far as him being confused--how confusing is it to text/call your OW immediately before calling his W? Geez! I would be leery of him saying he isn't sleeping with this OW. He so adamantly insisted he didn't contact her until you told him of your proof.
Have you seen a counselor yourself? That really helped me when I was in your position. It helped me look at my situation more clearly.
hang in there h2k and take care of yourself!
I'm very proud of you for standing up for yourself:
Out of the night that covers me,Black as the Pit from pole to pole,I thank whatever gods may beFor my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstanceI have not winced nor cried aloud.Under the bludgeoning of chanceMy head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tearsLooms but the Horror of the shade,And yet the menace of the yearsFinds, and shall find me, unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,How charged with punishments the scrollI am the master of my fate:I am the captain of my soul.
--William Ernest Henley