I am needing help!
You are so much stronger than I am. I threw myself at her feet and allowed her to use me as a door matt for a while. Not making her deal with the aftermath of her actions has only prolonged our problems.
Chin up. You are doing so well. In time, you will be very proud of yourself for standing up for you and your kids. You have to know that we are all looking on with awe.
I have 5 kids ages 16-10. Our D Day was August, 2008.
ThomasWe have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.
Well he left last night.
I am so sorry for the terrible evening you must have had.
I'm very proud of you for standing up for yourself:
Out of the night that covers me,Black as the Pit from pole to pole,I thank whatever gods may beFor my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstanceI have not winced nor cried aloud.Under the bludgeoning of chanceMy head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tearsLooms but the Horror of the shade,And yet the menace of the yearsFinds, and shall find me, unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,How charged with punishments the scrollI am the master of my fate:I am the captain of my soul.
--William Ernest Henley
Good for you being strong. Your H now knows he can not "talk" to this person and you mean business. As far as him being confused--how confusing is it to text/call your OW immediately before calling his W? Geez! I would be leery of him saying he isn't sleeping with this OW. He so adamantly insisted he didn't contact her until you told him of your proof.
Have you seen a counselor yourself? That really helped me when I was in your position. It helped me look at my situation more clearly.
hang in there h2k and take care of yourself!