HELP ASAP

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Registered: 04-27-2007
HELP ASAP
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Thu, 05-13-2010 - 8:33pm

I am needing help!

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Registered: 09-12-2008
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Sun, 05-16-2010 - 1:00am

You are so much stronger than I am. I threw myself at her feet and allowed her to use me as a door matt for a while. Not making her deal with the aftermath of her actions has only prolonged our problems.

Chin up. You are doing so well. In time, you will be very proud of yourself for standing up for you and your kids. You have to know that we are all looking on with awe.

Thomas

I have 5 kids ages 16-10. Our D Day was August, 2008.

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Sat, 05-15-2010 - 1:40am
Yes myradorn I firmly believe that old saying about "not knowing what you have until it's gone" Many times men/women in affairs just don't see the light UNTIL you kick them out and they KNOW you mean business. They will often times hang on to the OW/OM UNTIL they really realize that losing their home and family will be the price they pay. They need to figure out if the life they worked so hard and so many years for is worth risking for a chance that they MIGHT be happier with the OP. Their integrity and reputation as a good man, husband and father is often times something they don't want to lose in the end. But sometimes it just takes a while for them to realize that.
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Registered: 01-16-2008
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Sat, 05-15-2010 - 12:52am
why was his phone shut off? I have only ever heard of that happening if you do not pay the bill
did you cut his texting minutes? hehe
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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 10:25pm
Re-read peacyma's last response, that about says it all right now.

 

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Registered: 04-27-2007
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 8:26pm

Well he left last night.

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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 3:58pm
So you confronted him and initially he lied.

 

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Registered: 04-26-2010
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 3:17pm

I am so sorry for the terrible evening you must have had.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 11:28am
Good for you. Sometimes they just need time alone to THINK and come to the realization of the situation, not to mention pull their head out of their arse.
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Registered: 09-12-2008
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 10:32am

h2k

I'm very proud of you for standing up for yourself:

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeoning of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

--William Ernest Henley

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: h2k_mommy
Fri, 05-14-2010 - 7:42am

Hugs h2k!

Good for you being strong. Your H now knows he can not "talk" to this person and you mean business. As far as him being confused--how confusing is it to text/call your OW immediately before calling his W? Geez! I would be leery of him saying he isn't sleeping with this OW. He so adamantly insisted he didn't contact her until you told him of your proof.

Have you seen a counselor yourself? That really helped me when I was in your position. It helped me look at my situation more clearly.

hang in there h2k and take care of yourself!

Ollie

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