NO CONTACT MEANS NO NEW HURTS!!!
He needs to never see her again, NEVER. End your friendship too.
My fiance started hanging out with his ex, who was the OW of his previous relationship.... let's just say that is why I am here....
It's an addiction, it's like waving heroin in front of an addict....
He should never see her again, either should you!
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i am sorry but i have been thinking about the why of seeing her? bs............. what in the world could she possibly tell him that will help him be able to process what he did.
in my humble opinion he still has feelings for her, there is something there or he would not need to contact her or see her. silly little man, does he not realize she meant more to him than he to her. silly little man.
but then there is you, after all he has put you thru he now wants you to be understanding about him seeing her one last time. outrageous, but that is just me.
on the other hand, can you live with telling him no - wondering if he will ever be able to commit to or love you in the manner you so rightfully deserve.
the decision is yours, a very tough one at that.
i am so sorry that even now all that he can think of, what is his primary focus is her. you deserve so much better.
have you read the 180*? no matter what you decide, please read it and follow it.
also i would like to recommend a book i am currently using to help me it is called 'you can heal your life' by louise hay. there is more to the pain you are feeling than him, something inside of you is driving you to believe that what he is willing to give you IS THE BEST YOU DESERVE. so wrong, so wrong.
we are here for you.
I'm so sorry.