Help me with a horrible marital problem, please!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2011
Help me with a horrible marital problem, please!
Sat, 11-12-2011 - 12:48pm

My husband has always wanted 2 women to give him oral sex at the same time.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 12:08am

Hi steph


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010

First of all, the other poster is right. No one has a right to abuse anyone else.

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004


Any man who would physically assault a woman - for any reason - is guilty of domestic violence. You are a victim of domestic violence and I would ask you to do everything you can to insure you are safe. The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 is a good place to start. You'll find support, resources, and good referrals on this line. Please call it today, even if you don't believe me when I say you are a victim of domestic violence. Please call. It's important you understand you should NEVER be hit or pushed or shoved by anyone, especially your husband!

Secondly, I think it's very, very important to understand that when you allow another person into the very intimate places of your marriage, i.e. the marriage bed, you open a Pandora's Box of problems. By giving "permission" to your husband to have sex with someone else, no matter what conditions you impose, you are setting the stage for the destruction of your marriage.

That makes me ask, why get married if you want sex with other people or multiple people at the same time? I'm old fashioned, yes. I don't "get" the need to engage another person in something I believe to be exculsive, sacred, and holy between married people. It's why I got married.

I think you need to examine your marriage and decide whether this is a way you can live - for a long time - or whether you are better off being single. It's obviou your husband finds it convenient to be married. The domestic violence is absolutely unacceptable. You both need help to see this.