HELP! Trapt with in my own Head!!!

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Registered: 06-30-2009
HELP! Trapt with in my own Head!!!
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Tue, 06-30-2009 - 2:57pm

Hi, Im driving myself nuts and I just need someone to help me out here. Okay here is my situation.


I am 21 years old and I will be marrried for a year on September 6th, 2009. Recently my husband and I moved from home to pursu our careers. He is (was) a devoted husband and I never thought in a million years he would do what he did. Well this last Friday my husband and I thought we would have a cook out and invite some friends over so that way my step-kids could have other kids to go play with. Anways we were drinking and around 4 am I couldnt find my husband. I put the kids to bed and I went looking for him thinking he was so drunk he probably fell. Well I found him on the phone txting. I grabbed the phone and started to read. It said I Love You. He snatched it back so I left to the room. I started packing my things to leave. He was so drunk all he could do was laugh. The next day he told me he didnt know who he was txting and he more than likley thought he was txting and for me not to leave. He said he loves me and that we need to work things out.


I agreed so we could try to save our marriage but Im making myself sick thinking who it was and if she is real.

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Tue, 06-30-2009 - 3:35pm
While it does sound suspiciouus and it sounds as if you really have doubts. I would suggest checking his phone bill for the number he was texting. This is how I found out about my W affair continuing. Most bills will show the number called and time used. If you don't know the number use whitespages.com to do a reverse lookup. Texts most of the time show up as 1-2 minutes usage. The bill should also show the date and time so you can reference it to that call or text.
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Registered: 06-30-2009
Tue, 06-30-2009 - 3:59pm
I wish I could check the phone bill, but it is a company phone so I do not have access to the phone records. But he has never hide the phone from me before. We use eachother phones all the time it was just that night. The I Love you i read on the txt keeps running through my mind like a broken record.
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Registered: 10-27-2006
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 5:04pm

Let me just say, "I HATE CELL PHONES!!!!!!". OKay got that out. I would definately ask to see his phone to settle your fears. If he isn't hiding anything then it shouldn't be a big deal for him to hand it over. I did the opposite and for the first time in over two years of being together checked my man's phone because of a gut feeling and I was

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 6:30pm