Hi GW!

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Registered: 03-02-2002
Hi GW!
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Mon, 01-27-2014 - 4:00pm

GW how are you?! I'm doing pretty good here. Everything has settled down I guess and I no longer try to sneak peeks at his phone,  I can't live my life like that,. Always nice to see your supportive and kind replies.  Keep it up girl!  

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: lisachilene
Tue, 01-28-2014 - 11:42pm
Hey Lisa, I'm doing good, ty for asking and for the kind words. :) Glad to hear things are going better for you. Are you and your H trying to work things out then? If so, I wish you the absolute best and if not, I wish you the absolute best and a better attorney than he has! lol GW
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: lisachilene
Tue, 01-28-2014 - 11:42pm
Hey Lisa, I'm doing good, ty for asking and for the kind words. :) Glad to hear things are going better for you. Are you and your H trying to work things out then? If so, I wish you the absolute best and if not, I wish you the absolute best and a better attorney than he has! lol GW
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: lisachilene
Tue, 01-28-2014 - 11:42pm
Hey Lisa, I'm doing good, ty for asking and for the kind words. :) Glad to hear things are going better for you. Are you and your H trying to work things out then? If so, I wish you the absolute best and if not, I wish you the absolute best and a better attorney than he has! lol GW
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: lisachilene
Tue, 01-28-2014 - 11:42pm
Hey Lisa, I'm doing good, ty for asking and for the kind words. :) Glad to hear things are going better for you. Are you and your H trying to work things out then? If so, I wish you the absolute best and if not, I wish you the absolute best and a better attorney than he has! lol GW
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Registered: 06-07-2007
In reply to: gal_christy180
Wed, 01-29-2014 - 10:48am

Hey Lisa!!!

I’m glad you are doing well.  I am doing good except for a few issues with XBF flapping his gums about his new freedom… Whatever!!!  (I posted the whole story on the HI Gal post).

He has now joined Match and is lying on his profile.  What a loser.  It really s*cks that we are all from the same area and know a lot of ppl, so it is hard to not hear about all of his extra activities!!!

Oh well I am glad you are doing well.  Are you and H rebuilding? Going to counseling? How is the gym going?  Details details!!!  J

Christy

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Registered: 03-02-2002
In reply to: lisachilene
Wed, 01-29-2014 - 5:08pm

Hi GW!  I posted a brief synopsis of my current situation in reply to Gal.  I come here to this site a lot because honestly it makes me feel like Im not alone.  Im sure many would say "oh get over it already".  But its hard.  I dont' do counseling.  I have had plenty of training in counseling and I know the drill.  I do have good friends tho that listen for free! Sometimes I wonder if I would be better off alone.  Not necessarily bec of the multiple cheating, but bec he is always so grouchy and monotone.  He watches CSI every night all night and I feel so lonely.  (I hate CSI!).. My choices  are very heavily weighed though because I have four children who love their fatherr very much.  We don't fight in fromt of them, so they have a peaceful, happy life.  

I cry a lot and feel lonely.  He does not like me to go out much, unless its with him.  I have tried talking to him ad nauseum, but nothing everr changes.  Sometimes I feel like i'm wasting so much of my life (i will be 48 in a few days).  But it is just not me that is affected by my desisions.  

Im sorry for sounding like such a whiney person.  Just a little lost I guess.

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Registered: 06-07-2007
In reply to: gal_christy180
Thu, 01-30-2014 - 8:34am

Hi Lisa!!!

I’m sorry you feel so sad.  I am sad too.  Like, I will NEVER go back to XBF, but I miss the times we had and when we were a “family.”

I can’t stand CSI either.  The only good thing about this breakup is that I don’t have to watch golf, pawn stars and American pickers each and every night!! Geesh!!!!  My XBF was grouchy also.  He went on vac for three weeks, comes home and calls me to complain about a bill he got in the mail!!! Seriously???? YOU WERE IN SOUTH CAROLINA VACATIONING WHILE I WAS TAKING CARE OF YOUR HOUSE AND RENTALS AND TAKING CARE OF MY HOUSE, WORKING AND TAKING CARE OF MY KIDS!!!! SERIOUSLY?????????????????????????????????????????????????????

I know what you mean about ppl saying “Get over it already” All of my friends keeping telling me that.  Like no sh&^!!! What do you think I am trying to do????

Like I said, too bad you and I (and GW) didn’t live near each other.. We could all hang out for a “f&*k em all party!!!!

And you are not whiney.  You are mourning right now…Sending hugs J

Christy

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 02-02-2014 - 10:33pm

Lisa,

      I'm so sorry. Honey, you know that if he's a multiple cheater, that if you feel lonely and cry a lot, and he's manipulating you by not allowing you to go out that you aren't going to be happy and in turn, you're kids aren't going to be happy.  Believe me,  sooner or later, your kids ARE going to realize that something's not right.

    You and they deserve so much more than a grouch ass, manipulating man in their lives. Staying with someone because of the kids never works; especially when it makes YOU so miserable!  GW