Hi I'm new...just looking for support

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Registered: 04-07-2005
Hi I'm new...just looking for support
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Wed, 03-18-2009 - 12:10am

Hi guys,


I am glad I found this board. I think its helped already knowing I'm not alone. My husband and I have been married 6.5 years. I just found out he was having an affiar with something who he had a fling with while we were stationed overseas because her husband killed himself. That's why everything came out. I could feel it and would ask him questions and he would just lie and blame it on me for the reasons he was unhappy. But in my gut I KNEW it....


But his ability to lie to me over and over again was just unrelenting. Like I can't believe he could look me in the face and lie to me like he did. I am just hurt right now. I have been away from him for a month, and he has told me he's not inlove with me, but is now maybe going to fall back inlove with me when he comes to see our daughter in a couple weeks (she's 5)


I guess I just don't know where to go from here. I have great family down here--- I know that he doesn't love me, it was obvious by his actions I think and I want to move on so badly, no papers have

Marie

Mommy to Abigail 1-19-04

Mommy to Angels    &n

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 1:17am
Welcome aboard
If he cannot admit what he did and is not truly remorseful I would not even think of taking him back because he most likely will do it again. You have your family for support, take advantage of that. When a man tells you he's no longer in love with you, what it usually always means is that he is in love with someone else. Remember that we truly don't know who we married until our prince turns into a frog.
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Registered: 09-09-2008
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 1:28am
I wouldn't be positive he doesn't love you.

 

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Registered: 04-07-2005
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 6:14pm
Thank you so much to you guys for your advice. I guess I just don't feel like I'm getting the truth right now and

Marie

Mommy to Abigail 1-19-04

Mommy to Angels    &n

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 6:21pm
Are you saying her H committed suicide because she was having an affair with your H? And your H has no guilt over that?
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 6:30pm

Remember that you didn't have anything to do with this, it was his actions entirely.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 10-11-2008
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 8:24pm

Hi Marie


From your posts and your personal info, am I correct in that your husband and the deceased husband of the OW are both military?