It might seem strange, but I'm no longer heartbroken.
Since he won't leave do you have anyone you can go stay with, such as one of your kids? I'd hate to see you leave and then be living practically in poverty on 775.00 a mth. How can you pay rent, utilies and buy food on that? That's what my mom gets, and if she didn't live in a senior citizens high rise where your rent is based on your income (I think she pays like 230.00 a mth.) she would have to live with one of us kids, cause there's no way she could pay regular rents of 600.00 for a one bedroom apt.(which usually include NO utilities)and pay her life insurance, pay utilities and buy food.
I worry about the money angle all the time.
No, he's not moving with me.
Sprucetree... why give up where you live? Why not stay there? You have 32 years invested there too.
I agree with you that she could move to another bedroom and stay away from him as much as possible. That is IF she can stand to be in the same house with him whilst he carries on his EA with this other woman. She would like HIM to move out, but he won't leave. I agree that she should not be the one to move out when he is the one in the wrong here. If the house is in both their names she would probably be better off financially to divorce him and get half the proceeds from the sale of the house. At least she would get a large lump sum of money which she could put in the bank and pull out when she needs some extra money. I would also think if he is still working that she could collect alimony from him after 30 plus years of marriage. As you said, her best bet would be to consult a lawyer because she may be entitled to more than she thinks after such a long marriage.
I've actually talked to 3 different lawyers and decided on the one I wanted.
During the winter there were 3 or 4 instances of physical abuse.