His EA is starting up again

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2010
His EA is starting up again
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Sun, 05-23-2010 - 1:10pm

It might seem strange, but I'm no longer heartbroken.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 5:57pm
Ah, I just now saw this post.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 5:53pm

What is it you really WANT?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2010
Fri, 05-28-2010 - 7:39am

During the winter there were 3 or 4 instances of physical abuse.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 1:02pm
What do you mean by violence? If he is getting physically violent with you in any way then you should get out of there ASAP. Do you have anywhere you can go stay, like a friends house nearby?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2010
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 8:50am

I've actually talked to 3 different lawyers and decided on the one I wanted.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 05-23-2010 - 11:18pm

FDW

I agree with you that she could move to another bedroom and stay away from him as much as possible. That is IF she can stand to be in the same house with him whilst he carries on his EA with this other woman. She would like HIM to move out, but he won't leave. I agree that she should not be the one to move out when he is the one in the wrong here. If the house is in both their names she would probably be better off financially to divorce him and get half the proceeds from the sale of the house. At least she would get a large lump sum of money which she could put in the bank and pull out when she needs some extra money. I would also think if he is still working that she could collect alimony from him after 30 plus years of marriage. As you said, her best bet would be to consult a lawyer because she may be entitled to more than she thinks after such a long marriage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2007
Sun, 05-23-2010 - 9:17pm

Sprucetree... why give up where you live? Why not stay there? You have 32 years invested there too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 05-23-2010 - 8:21pm
I hope so too. Good Luck with finding an affordable place.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2010
Sun, 05-23-2010 - 6:37pm

No, he's not moving with me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 05-23-2010 - 2:45pm
Who is we? Is your D planning on moving with you?

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