How can I deal with spouse and other woman working together?

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doggirl4
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Registered: 03-28-2006
How can I deal with spouse and other woman working together?
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 Wed, 12-14-2011 - 9:14pm

I have posted my story previously, but my big question that I have been dealing with today is this, my spouse works with the woman he had an emotional (maybe more) affair with.

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ollie2008
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Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: doggirl4
Re: How can I deal with spouse and other woman working together?
 Thu, 12-15-2011 - 10:24am

You can take the guy out of the job but you can not keep him from communicating/seeing this OW if he decides to do so.

peaceyma
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Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: doggirl4
Re: How can I deal with spouse and other woman working together?
 Thu, 12-15-2011 - 1:05am
As long as he's working with her (and especially staying at hotels with her) I see no way of dealing with this and staying sane except for him to find another position. A lot of wives will demand a cheating husband find another job as part of staying with him.
dmh81
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Registered: 12-13-2011
In reply to: doggirl4
Re: How can I deal with spouse and other woman working together?
 Wed, 12-14-2011 - 10:32pm
I'm sorry I keep posting, but I just saw the part about the hotel.... Honey, there's absolutely NO WAY NO HOW THAT WOULD HAPPEN!!!!!

Our stories are so similar, I wish I could give you my phone number to call me. This is too much. Be strong and don't lose yourself and values to keep him.
dmh81
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Registered: 12-13-2011
In reply to: doggirl4
Re: How can I deal with spouse and other woman working together?
 Wed, 12-14-2011 - 10:28pm
And this isn't just a job for my husband, it's his career... But I do not care what it is! He didn't think twice before risking our family. I didn't think twice before possibly getting him fired! We have 5 children, very expensive mortgage ocean front home... I don't care!!! I'd rather be poor, struggle financially til he finds a new job and hopefully save my marriage than have him work with her. It made me crazy... Which does take away from our children. They need me 100%.... so he has a choice.... I pray for you it's the best one for your family!!!
dmh81
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Registered: 12-13-2011
In reply to: doggirl4
Re: How can I deal with spouse and other woman working together?
 Wed, 12-14-2011 - 10:21pm
Don't! My husband is or should I say WAS an ER doctor. The other woman worked directly under him at the hospital. I went straight to their boss... He quit less than a month later! I'd rather be poor than make myself crazy every day when he went to work!! I had warned him that I would show up at work, create a huge messy scene just like he and that whore did in my family and ruin both their names, reputation, and respect! I was dead serious and he knew it!!! There is generally a no inter-office relationship policy... Check in to it!
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